How to develop healthy boundaries with Lysa TerKeurst

Welcome to the show! Today I welcome my dear friend, author, and fan-favorite, Lysa TerKeurst, for a very insightful (and much-needed) conversation about boundaries - how to make them and keep them.

Be sure to listen in as Lysa honestly shares how we can stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing us biblical ways to set boundaries without losing the best of who we are.

At some point, Lysa realized she had many questions about boundaries and relationships. Lysa used these questions to dig deeper into God’s Word to discover the many Scriptures that demonstrate that boundaries are not just a good idea but God’s idea. So much wisdom is found in my time with Lysa today…. I promise you don’t want to miss out on this eye-opening conversation!

Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. As a mother of five and Gigi to three, Lysa writes from her family’s farm table and lives in North Carolina.

Listen in to learn more about:

• Lysa’s definition of boundaries includes these three words - Access. Responsibility & Consequences.
• Signs of a healthy relationship vs. an unhealthy relationship + some scripts we can use to communicate necessary boundaries in our lives.
• How boundaries are not about leaving people but about loving people with the best of who you are.

Favorite quotes:

~Boundaries are not just a good idea, they are a God idea. He established the foundations of the world with boundaries.

~When we need someone to lift up their area of responsibility, if they don’t have the desire within themself to change their level of responsibility and match the level of access you have given them, no amount of external pressure will create lasting changes in them.

~A boundary without a consequence is nothing but a bad suggestion. 

~The purpose of a boundary is not to shove people away.  The purpose of a boundary is to love others really well without losing the best of who we are.

~Anytime you feel like you have to minimize the best of who you are to help make excuses or cover up for the worst of who someone else is, that's not just a red flat that is a full on fire!

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Alli