How to Set Boundaries with Dr. Alison Cook

Hey friend! Have you ever struggled to tell the difference between making sure your needs are met and being selfish? Is there a difference? Lean in – today’s conversation is for you! 

As we continue to talk about Remaining You While Raising Them and the secret art of confident motherhood, I couldn’t miss the chance to bring you a replay of a conversation I got to have last fall with a friend who is a pro on boundaries and showing up to your life with the best of yourself. You’ll discover how to set boundaries with care and compassion. 

My friend Dr. Alison Cook is a Boston-based psychologist and author of two books, Boundaries for Your Soul and The Best of You.  She is a wife and mom to two adult children, and she specializes in bringing faith and psychology together for real change in people’s lives. 

Join Alison and I for this conversation as we talk about: 

• How to find the healthy middle between never thinking of ourselves and only thinking of ourselves 

• Some commonly used (and misunderstood!) Scriptures that keep women playing small 

• Signs to look for when women give up on parts of themselves (and how to find our way back) 

• What it costs our loved ones when we shrink ourselves 

• Why noticing and naming struggles we see in ourselves is so essential to becoming whole

Favorite quotes:

• “You can trust God and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, lonely, and broken inside.”
  
• “When I hide myself, make myself invisible, or play like a doormat it is not only bad for me, I’m not bringing the best of who I am to the people I love.”
  
• “When I’m really being my true self , when I’m aligned with myself, I’m empowering  other people which is what helps them heal and become who they really need to be.”
  
• “We are worth so much more than numbing through all the various ways we can check out. God wants so much more for us.”
  
• “When women are healthy we change the world.”

Coaching this week: 

1. What is the biggest mistake people make when starting a new project?  (41:41)

Links to great things we discussed: 

• Alison Cook Website

• Alison Cook Instagram

• Alison Cook Facebook

• Boundaries for Your Soul

• The Best of You

• Easy on Me - Adele

• Abbott Elementary

• Armchair Expert Podcast

• Smartless Podcast

• Being Known Podcast

• The Ragamuffin Gospel

• Ruthless Trust

• Mattress Pads for Camping

• The Bear

• Christ Be In My Heart - Sam McCabe & Kristene DiMarco

Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here.

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xo,

Alli

https://www.alliworthington.com