The Myth of Being Low Maintenance: Why Downplaying Your Needs Is Wrecking Your Life

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Do you know what’s quietly stealing your joy, keeping you small, and making sure everyone else’s needs come first, while yours barely make the list? Being low maintenance. Yep, I said it.

 

Somewhere along the way, we got the message: don’t ask for much, don’t rock the boat, and definitely don’t be “difficult.” But let’s get real—that’s not a virtue. That’s a survival strategy we learned to keep the peace, and it’s keeping us stuck.

 

Today, I’m calling it out. If you’ve ever said, “No worries, whatever works!” when it absolutely did not work, or if you’ve ever ignored that little voice in your head telling you what you actually want, it’s time to break free. You’re not “too much.” You’re not “demanding.” You’re a human with real wants and needs, and you deserve to own them, without apology.

Timestamps:

 

(02:42)-Where Exactly Did the Low-Maintenance Myth Come From

(04:22) - The Cortisol Cascade: How People-Pleasing Wrecks Your Nervous System

(06:49) -Your Identity Is at Stake: What You’re Really Losing When You Keep the Peace

(08:52) - Practical Ways to Start Showing Up Without Shrinking Your Needs

(12:01) - How to Finally Break the Low-Maintenance Cycle

 

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Alli