The Alli Worthington Show

How to Be Brave Enough to Be Broken with Toni Collier

Welcome back, friend! I am so glad you are joining me for today’s conversation with speaker and author Toni Collier. We dive right into our discussion of hurt, hope, and healing.  Be sure to listen in as we discuss trauma, abuse, childhood wounds, and toxic relationships that have broken us and how there is no shame in brokenness. It’s in our brokenness that the healing power of Jesus comes to find us. This is such a powerful episode, friend. Toni Collier is the founder of an international women’s organization, Broken Crayons Still Color, which helps women process brokenness and find hope. She is a Speaker, Host, Author of Brave Enough to be Broken, and consultant that has helped organizations with creative marketing, leadership, student ministry, and strategic planning. Toni is teaching people all over the globe that you can be broken and worthy and unqualified and still called to do great things. She doesn’t want you to just face your demons; she wants you to quash the illusion of your brokenness so you can live the most colorful life possible, on and off stage. Toni is the wife of Sam and a mom of two living in Atlanta. Listen in to learn more about: What it looks like to intentionally build community and how to develop and maintain friend circles How to identify a space, relationship, or workplace that is toxic and building healthy boundaries to protect yourself from that The value of accessing your core lie and learning to speak truth to it.  Favorite quotes: ~ Hurt and hope can co-exist. That we can be going through things and we can be doing our best to survive those things but we can also have the capacity to put up a front.  ~ Jesus had circles too and when we get intentional about how we structure friendship circles we can ultimately live healthier lives. ~ We have to become aware of what we need. Some of the reason why we get into toxic environments is because there is a toxic part of us that craves it and it becomes a magnet.  ~ We should be curious, not condemning. We are not good about being curious about helping people.  In this episode I answered this question: How do you handle chores with all your boys? (33:27) Links to great things we discussed:  TAYA - Getaway (Official Music Video) - YouTube The Blacklist (TV Series 2013– ) - IMDb The Chosen (TV Series 2017– ) - IMDb Lavender Salve All Purpose - MST Goods Opinion | Happy Children Do Chores - The New York Times Glass Onion: A Knives Out Mystery (2022) - IMDb Whitney Houston (feat. The Georgia Mass Choir) "Joy to the World" Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Build Resilient Relationships with Seth & Heather Thompson Day

Hey hey! Today’s episode is a must-listen! The cancel culture of the world today makes it tricky to navigate relationships, doesn’t it? Listen in as I chat with Seth and Heather Thompson Day about these issues on the show.  Seth and Heather provide a framework of what the Bible says about showing up for one another—even when we feel like giving up. They also share just how important it is to stop waiting for the “perfect” time to move forward in our lives. Heather Thompson Day is an Associate Professor of Communication at Andrews University. She is passionate about supporting women and runs an online community called I’m That Wife, which has over two hundred thousand followers. Heather’s writing has been featured on outlets like TODAY and the National Communication Association. She believes her calling is to stand in the gaps of our churches for young people. She is the author of seven books, including It’s Not Your Turn and Confessions of a Christian Wife. Seth Day is a graduate student of Educational Psychology. He has been a pastor and campus chaplain. His background in Human Service Counseling and ministry brings an important spiritual component to their most recent book, I’ll See You Tomorrow.  Listen in to hear all about: How communication drives relationships and what it means to be wired to be in relationships with other people. How messages and experiences we have in childhood affect our relationships into adulthood  What weak ties are and how we can value them in our lives. Favorite quotes: ~Our experiences in life, what we go through as children; we are constantly seeking affection. We  are going to adapt our coping styles to whatever way helps us get that affection and the unfortunate part is that we carry this to our adult relationships. ~It starts with you! I can only control what I choose to do. The reality is it starts with YOU making the commitment to start living life again ~Narcissists don’t want love, they want adoration. ~Weak ties matter. If we spend all our time saying we don’t have any best friend  relationships we will miss the relationships that we have. ~People who are part of a church community are healthier and happier. In this episode I answered this question: How can I become more confident in my abilities? (29:51) Links to great things we discussed:  This Is Us (TV Series 2016–2022) - IMDb Abbott Elementary (TV Series 2021– )  Jesus I Never Knew, The: Philip Yancey, Bill Richards - Amazon.com Lash Boost Eyelash Conditioning Serum | Rodan + Fields® I'll See You Tomorrow: Building Relational Resilience When You ... Heather Day (@heatherday) • Instagram photos and videos The Chosen (TV Series 2017– ) - IMDb Milk & Cookies: A Merry Crowder Christmas - Amazon.com Music Naked Body Oil - Osmia Organics - Integrity Botanicals Confident Motherhood Community Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to develop healthy boundaries with Lysa TerKeurst

Welcome to the show! Today I welcome my dear friend, author, and fan-favorite, Lysa TerKeurst, for a very insightful (and much-needed) conversation about boundaries - how to make them and keep them. Be sure to listen in as Lysa honestly shares how we can stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing us biblical ways to set boundaries without losing the best of who we are. At some point, Lysa realized she had many questions about boundaries and relationships. Lysa used these questions to dig deeper into God’s Word to discover the many Scriptures that demonstrate that boundaries are not just a good idea but God’s idea. So much wisdom is found in my time with Lysa today…. I promise you don’t want to miss out on this eye-opening conversation! Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. As a mother of five and Gigi to three, Lysa writes from her family’s farm table and lives in North Carolina. Listen in to learn more about: Lysa’s definition of boundaries includes these three words - Access. Responsibility & Consequences. Signs of a healthy relationship vs. an unhealthy relationship + some scripts we can use to communicate necessary boundaries in our lives. How boundaries are not about leaving people but about loving people with the best of who you are. Favorite quotes: ~Boundaries are not just a good idea, they are a God idea. He established the foundations of the world with boundaries. ~When we need someone to lift up their area of responsibility, if they don’t have the desire within themself to change their level of responsibility and match the level of access you have given them, no amount of external pressure will create lasting changes in them. ~A boundary without a consequence is nothing but a bad suggestion.  ~The purpose of a boundary is not to shove people away.  The purpose of a boundary is to love others really well without losing the best of who we are. ~Anytime you feel like you have to minimize the best of who you are to help make excuses or cover up for the worst of who someone else is, that's not just a red flat that is a full on fire! Links to great things we discussed:  Free Coaching With Alli AWS Internship Program Application: Become an intern on Alli’s team Lysa TerKeurst | Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing Adele - Easy On Me (Official Lyric Video) - YouTube Music The Chosen (TV Series 2017– ) - IMDb Dual Transformation: How to Reposition Today's Business While … Lessons in Chemistry: A Novel: Garmus, Bonnie - Amazon.com Mad Men (TV Series 2007–2015) - IMDb The Crown (TV Series 2016 - IMDb Yellowstone (TV Series 2018– ) - IMDb Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Find the Best of You with Alison Cook, PhD

Hey hey! Do you ever struggle with caring for family, friends, and co-workers without pushing your own needs to the back burner? Well, friend, you are precisely in the right place today!  My friend Dr. Alison Cook joins me on the show to talk about her most recent book, The Best of You, which helps us find our true selves while in relationship with God, other people, and ourselves.  During our conversation, Alison teaches us how to find our best and most authentic versions of ourselves in a way that allows us to show up for ourselves before we show up for others. Also, she details some of the ways childhood wounds, confusing church messages, and cultural conditioning toward women and their wants have kept women stuck, overwhelmed, and defeated.  Dr. Alison Cook is a psychologist and the author of two books, including her new book, The Best of You and Boundaries for Your Soul. For 20 years, Alison has empowered women to heal from past wounds, develop a strong sense of self, forge healthy rela­tionships with others, and experience a loving God who is for them. Her weekly email and podcast reach more than 70,000 people. She specializes in bringing faith and psychology together to create real change in people's lives. Alison and her husband, Joe, are the parents of two adult children. They are based out of Boston and spend time in the mountains of Wyoming as often as possible. Listen in to learn more about: How Christian women internalize an unhealthy message of putting our needs and wants last (and how we can work to reverse it!) How to identify the differences between selfishness, selflessness, and selfhood. The signs that we have given up on ourselves and how to rediscover our voice.  Favorite quotes: ~We think of Jesus' words “Love others as yourself.” There is an assumption there that there is a you that is showing up; that you know who that you is that  you are  bringing into relationships but a lot of women don’t understand or don’t feel like they have permission to do that work.   ~When I hide myself, when I make myself invisible, when I play like a doormat, it’s not just bad for me , but I’m not bringing the best of who I am to the people I love.  ~When I’m really being my true self , when I’m aligned with myself, I’m empowering  other people which is what helps them heal and become who they really need to be. ~We are worth so much more than just numbing through all the various ways we can check out ; God wants so much more for us. Links to great things we discussed:  Free Coaching With Alli AWS Internship Program Application: Become an intern on Alli’s team Adele - Easy On Me (Official Lyric Video) - YouTube Abbott Elementary (TV Series 2021– ) - IMDb Podcasts - Armchair Expert Being Known Podcast The Ragamuffin Gospel: Good News for the Bedraggled, Beat-Up … Dr. Alison Cook website The Best of You: Break Free from Painful Patterns, Mend ... - Amazon Amsterdam (2022) - IMDb Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How To Explore Biblical Womanhood with Beth Allison Barr

Hey hey! Today’s episode is a must-listen, friend! I am so convinced that this is 100% true I am bringing this conversation back from the archives! You’re certainly in for a treat as we revisit this powerful discussion with historian, pastor's wife, and author, Dr. Beth Allison Barr.  Listen in as we talk about her book, The Making of Biblical Womanhood, in which she outlines the definition of biblical womanhood and how it affects women’s choices about careers, their roles in ministry, their relationship dynamics, and so much more. Beth shares how biblical womanhood isn't biblical but actually arose from a series of clearly definable moments in history. Friends, this is a game-changer conversation for sure! Beth Allison Barr is the James Vardaman Professor of History at Baylor University. She earned her PhD in Medieval History from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and is the bestselling author of four books including The Making of Biblical Womanhood: How the Subjugation of Women Became Gospel Truth. She is also a pastor’s wife and mom of two great kids. Listen in to hear all about: How to become more biblically literate by approaching the Bible with a contextual understanding of the time it was written. What the Reformation cost women in terms of opportunities and societal norms. Ways culture shapes our view of women and men in a way that women and men are not shaped in the Bible. Favorite quotes: ~Biblical womanhood is one of the most recent manifestations of the patriarchy. ~I think the cost of the reformation for evangelical women is that it made only one right way for us to be Godly. And that was to be married with children under the authority of our husbands. ~Culture shapes the way we view women and men in a way that women and men are not shaped in the Bible. ~There was a wage gap in the medieval world. Women made about 71 cents to the dollar, if we put it in modern terms. And here we are in the 21st century and women make about 75 cents to the dollar compared with men for doing the same jobs. I think that is a very powerful example of something  going on in which women’s work is not valued in the same way as men. That women are seen as not as not quite as good as men around them. Links to great things we discussed:  https://bethallisonbarr.com/ The Making of Biblical Womanhood: How the Subjugation of Women ... Bon Jovi | Spotify Hamilton (Original Broadway Cast Recording) - Spotify Star Wars Series | StarWars.com Loki (TV Series 2021– ) - IMDb Pants - Summersalt Don't Worry Darling (2022) - IMDb Mad Men (TV Series 2007–2015) -  Apple AirPods Pro (2nd Generation) Wireless Earbuds with ... Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Be Good & Kind with Rich Villodas

Hey there everyone! Today’s episode is packed with wisdom and grace, and I just know you’re going to love this conversation with pastor, author, and speaker Rich Villodas. We talk about how we can truly become whole in a broken and fractured world.  Listen in as Rich invites us to ask ourselves two questions:  1. How did we lose goodness, kindness, and beauty?  2. More importantly, how do we get them back into our lives?  The answers to both are especially valuable as we live in our walled-up and often hostile world.  Rich Villodas is the Brooklyn-born lead pastor of New Life Fellowship, a large multiracial church with more than seventy-five countries represented in Elmhurst, Queens. He enjoys reading widely, preaching, and writing on contemplative spirituality, justice-related matters, and the art of preaching. He's been married to Rosie since 2006, and they have two beautiful children, Karis and Nathan.  Listen in to learn more about: The five questions we can ask ourselves whenever we experience anxiety to protect both our emotional health and our relationships with others. Ways to cultivate a calm and loving presence in the middle of an anxious culture. Contemplative prayer and why it is important in our lives. Favorite quotes: At its core, sin is failure to love. If Jesus says that the greatest commandment is  to love God with your heart, soul, mind and strength and to love your neighbor as yourself, then the essence of  sin must be the violation of that.  A calm and loving presence is a presence that is not driven by your action or reaction. It’s a life that moves beyond emotionality and reactionality.  Contemplative prayer, at its core, is being present in the presence of God. It is friendship with Jesus.  The fruit of contemplative prayer is not simply greater self awareness or self actualization or religious goose bumps, it is how can I be more lovingly present with people. It begins with us befriending silence, normalizing  boredom and reframing distractions. In this episode I answered this question: How do we view happiness in a positive way? How do I pursue happiness without harm? (32:50) Links to great things we discussed: Rich Villodas Audioslave - Cochise - YouTube Harry Styles - As It Was (Official Video) - YouTube Music Mosquito Treatment For Yard - Amazon.com Stranger Things (TV Series 2016– ) - IMDb Happiness: Alcorn, Randy: 0031809189344: Amazon.com: Books Confess, Fletch (2022) - IMDb Kentucky Down Under Adventure Zoo | Mammoth Onyx Cave … Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How God Stays with Matthew West

Hey, hey! Do you remember what you were doing in March 2020 or what I call, the before times? We have come so far, and yet almost everything has changed for all of us in one way or another. Right?! Today on the show, I’m joined by singer, songwriter, author, and podcast host, Matthew West. He joins me for a candid conversation about 2020, the pandemic, and everything that has turned our lives and illusions of security upside down.  Matthew shares his memories of the day the lockdown directly impacted his life in an unexpected place and how God used a stranger to comfort him. During our conversation,  Matthew shares stories, experiences, and discoveries from his faith journey of rediscovering “God with us” as inspired by the words of his hit song, “The God Who Stays.” Matthew West is a five-time GRAMMY® nominee, three-time Dove Award winner, and a multiple ASCAP Christian Music Songwriter/Artist of the Year winner. In addition to his recording career, he has more than 130 songwriting credits, including cuts by Rascal Flatts, Michael W. Smith, and Casting Crowns. He has also written multiple books, including his recent release, The God Who Stays. Matthew is also the husband of Emily and the father of two daughters. Listen in to learn more about: What happens when we have the opportunity to step into someone else’s story. How missed opportunities are a gift in their own right. Matthew’s “Summer of No What-Ifs” and how what he learned can impact our lives. Favorite quotes: ~You can’t quit on a calling no matter how many times you get rejected. ~It’s an honor to step into people’s stories and when you do that and when you focus on somebody else’s story instead of your own, your perspective on life changes in a radical way. ~Make the most of the one story that God has you on this earth to write and He is writing it for you so follow in to his plan and that’s  where you discover life to the fullest. In this episode I answered this question: How can I stay motivated? Because I find myself having great intentions but I don't follow through. (42:17) Links to great things we discussed:  Matthew West - Website Reckless Love (Official Lyric Video) - Bethel Music & Cory Asbury [Sittin' On] The Dock Of The Bay - YouTube Seinfeld (TV Series 1989–1998) - IMDb The Middle (TV Series 2009–2018) - IMDb Athletic Greens® - Official Site Gooey Butter Cake | Jeni's Splendid Ice Creams The Woman King (2022) - IMDb High Impact™ Mascara - Clinique Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to strengthen your marriage with Gary Thomas

  Welcome back, friends! I’m delighted to welcome Gary Thomas back to the show to give us some practical advice about marriage, especially during tough times..  Realistically, we all know life brings storms at times. Just think about the past two years! That’s why I’m so glad Gary is here today to talk about his latest book Making Your Marriage a Fortress: Strengthening Your Marriage to Withstand Life’s Storms, while sharing stories from his own marriage. It’s so reassuring to know that we are not alone in navigating tough times in our relationships. Gary is the author of numerous books that have sold over two million copies, translated into more than a dozen languages, and won numerous awards. He also enjoys running in his spare time and has completed 14 marathons, including the Boston Marathon, three times. He and his wife Lisa have been married for 38 years, and they have three adult children and two grandchildren. Listen in to learn more about: The three things we can do right now to storm-proof our marriages Making our marriages emotionally healthy Practical ways couples can strengthen their marriage in the middle of attacks on multiple fronts.  Favorite quotes: ~Both affluence and financial depreciation can strengthen marriages if faced together. ~It’s wise as a couple for both to know what’s going on financially. ~It’s not just keeping your marriage together more important than that;  it’s keeping your heart together with God. Keeping God on your side. Enjoying the favor and comfort of God.  ~The crisis will come. The kind of marriage you have now , will it hold when the crisis hits?  ~Stay connected as a couple so that when the storm does hit your marriage will be a refuge and will be part of the solution and not the problem.   In this episode I answered this question: How can I keep myself motivated to tackle new things in life without giving up? (37:50) Links to great things we discussed:  The Beach Boys | Spotify Official website of Tour de France 2022 Complete works of Thomas Brooks - Classic Christian Library The Lord of the Rings: The Rings of Power (TV Series 2022– ) - IMDb In Jesus' Name (God of Possible) - Katy Nichole - Lyric Video Blended Face Powder - Clinique Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Find Strength in the Holy Spirit with Max Lucado

I have a question for you, friend. Do you ever feel like you’re drowning in questions you can't answer and problems you can't solve? Today on the show, I welcome back pastor and author Max Lucado for a conversation about how we can learn to lean into the life-saving strength of the Holy Spirit. In this conversation, Max and I speak candidly about who the Spirit is, how he can empower us to be more joyful, and the ways we can overcome anything when we draw closer to God. Max encourages us that while the chaos of our lives often feels like too much to take on by ourselves, there is no more need to feel as if we are walking this path alone. There’s also no more carrying weight we were not intended to bear. We can rest easy knowing that help Is here.  Trust me when I say this is another conversation you don’t want to miss! Max Lucado is a pastor, speaker, and bestselling author who, in his own words, “writes books for people who don’t read books.” He serves the people of Oak Hills Church in San Antonio, Texas, and his message is for the hurting, the guilty, the lonely, and the discouraged: God loves you; let him. Listen in to learn more about: How Max has found strength and purpose through understanding the Holy Spirit. The ways the Holy Spirit can impact our daily fears and anxieties, not just milestone moments in our lives.. Why God gave us an advocate in the Holy Spirit and how we can use Him as an everyday guide. Favorite quotes: ~Jesus described the Holy Spirit as our helper and our counselor and that’s when it dawned on me that that’s who has been helping me lately and that opened my mind with a deep appreciation and a better understanding of the Holy Spirit. ~Any voice I hear has to submit to scripture. ~The Spirit is always going to be kinder to you than you are to yourself. ~The Holy Spirit is the seal of the saint. He seals us for eternity which means that though I may not know much about what’s going to happen, one thing that I don’t have to question is where I will spend eternity.  ~The Holy Spirit is our advocate. He knows exactly how to pray and he takes the groans of our heart and turns them into prayers worthy of heaven. In this episode I answered this question: You seem as if you always have it all together. Do you ever get stressed out and can’t think? How do you stop doing that? (35:09) Links to great things we discussed:  Max Lucado website  Help Is Here The Avett Brothers - No Hard Feelings (Official Video) - YouTube The Old Man (TV Series 2022– ) - IMDb How Did I Get Here?: Finding Your Way Back to God When ... Celebration of Discipline: The Path to Spiritual Growth - Amazon.com PXG - Parsons Xtreme Golf - Clubs Unlike Any Other Liquid I.V. - Faster Hydration Than Water Alone Iron Bell Music - Hallelujah Lives In Me (Lyrics) - YouTube Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Be More than Your Enneagram Number with Jeff & Beth McCord

Hey hey! Today’s episode is a must-listen! Whether you are all-in on the Enneagram or a skeptic, there is so much to consider and learn as Jeff and Beth McCord join me on the show.  Listen in as Beth provides us with a framework - sharing how the Enneagram is focused on why you think, feel, and behave in particular ways. Friends, this is so valuable to recognize in our own lives and the lives of those around us. A game changer for sure! We also dive deeper into their soon-to-release book, More Than Your Number, by talking about the importance of moving past often quickly assigned and sometimes stereotypical Enneagram Types. Instead, we can consider how our personality makes us so much more complex than just a number.  Pastor Jeff McCord and Beth McCord co-founded Your Enneagram Coach nearly 20 years ago. As an Enneagram coach, teacher, and speaker, Beth is now leading the industry in simplifying the profound truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. The McCord's passion is to make the Enneagram accessible for everyone, anywhere, so they can experience the transformation and freedom in Christ they long for. Beth and Jeff live outside Nashville, have been married for 23 years, and have two adult children.  Listen in to hear all about: Why some Christians are so freaked out about the Enneagram, according to Jeff. How you can use the Enneagram like healthcare providers use an X-ray.   Your Enneagram Internal Profile and the five ways becoming aware of your EIP can help you, through God's grace, better lead your internal thoughts. Favorite quotes: ~Anything that is not scriptural or Biblical from God's truth we are just going to throw out but let’s take what is still good and true and brings clarity about our heart;  not for self help and to work on ourselves  or self focus but it’s more about how we can align our heart with God. ~Your main type is your driving force. Your main type actually has two parts within it. It has a wounded child and a beloved child. The wounded child is the younger part of your heart that was wounded or traumatized as a child in some form or fashion and it was trying its best to survive. But what’s beautiful is that because of the redemption of Christ, when we trust in Him and receive Him as Lord and Savior,  not only are we forgiven but his righteousness is poured out on us and God looks at us as if we are Christ.  ~We want to help people understand that there’s an infinite number of variations for type and it should promote curiosity not stereotyping. ~God created us diverse but to unify and glorify Him. ~ The reason the enneagram is so helpful is because it gives us vocabulary to behave, think and feel the way we do.    In this episode I answered this question: I am working on being more self aware and raising my emotional intelligence. What are some negative thought traps do I need to avoid? (41:41)   Links to great things we discussed:  Jeff and Beth McCord’s website and books  Sleeping at last - playlist spotify  Amos Lee - Worry No More [Official Music Video] - YouTube Only Murders in the Building (TV Series 2021– ) - IMDb Pure Luck (1991) - IMDb The Lord Is My Courage: Stepping Through the ... - Amazon.com Not So Black and White: An Invitation to Honest Conversations … Nest Hub (2nd Gen) – Google Store Traeger Grills® - The Original Wood Pellet Grill Mad Men (TV Series 2007–2015) - IMDb That's The Power - Hillsong Worship - YouTube Turo car sharing marketplace | Rent the perfect car Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli