The Alli Worthington Show

How to Cultivate Resilience with Bianca Juarez Olthoff

Hey hey! We’ve all had times when we wanted to quit, but why do some people lean in and stick with it when others check out? The answer to that question may surprise you!  My friend Bianca Juarez Olthoff wrote the book on grit and resilience, and we had a fantastic conversation about just that. What she learned while writing this book is both fascinating and encouraging, and I can’t wait for you to hear it! Bianca is a Bible teacher, host of the “We’re Going There” podcast, and author of three books, including her newest, Grit Don’t Quit: Developing Resilience and Faith When Giving Up Isn’t an Option. She is passionate about helping people live counter-culturally and significantly.  Bianca and I don’t hold back today!  Lean in and listen as we discuss:  The lost art of perseverance in a world where most things are easy and fast Encouragement (and a permission slip!) for when you feel behind 3 key elements of resilience (the best news: these are 3 things we can learn and practice) 3 people you should meet with before you decide to quit anything What kills our grit (and how to protect it)   Why our thought lives matter more than we know And don't miss Bianca's challenge results in the P. S. at the end of the show notes! Favorite quotes: “The best things in life will cost you the most and take you the longest.” “Keep going! Just because it is hard doesn’t mean you're not supposed to do it. Good things are hard.” “There are three key elements to people who are resilient and they are learnable and actionable.”  “Can you find a purpose for this season and make the most of it? Those are the people that are the grittiest and successful.” “Our mind matters so let’s make sure we are mindful of what we are thinking.” "Bet on yourself and invest in yourself. It is the one investment that is going to pay you back 100 times and you can’t lose." Coaching this week:  What is the best investment you can make in your business?  (34:43) Links to great things we discussed:  Bianca Juarez Olthoff Website Bianca Juarez Olthoff Instagram Grit Don’t Quit: Developing Resilience and Faith When Giving Up Isn’t an Option The Coach School The Coach School Instagram You Will Be Saved - Elevation Rhythm The Count of Monte Cristo Stephen Curry: Underrated Quarterback Noni Glow Face Oil Tumeric Glow Moisturizer  3 Secrets to Become a Successful Coach Lost Discovery Cove Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli P.S. Face Oil Challenge results: After a week of trials, the surprise results are in and Bianca isn't using face oil anymore! Stay tuned for more of my favorite recommendations in each episode of the show. https://www.alliworthington.com  

How to Set Boundaries with Dr. Alison Cook

Hey friend! Have you ever struggled to tell the difference between making sure your needs are met and being selfish? Is there a difference? Lean in – today’s conversation is for you!  As we continue to talk about Remaining You While Raising Them and the secret art of confident motherhood, I couldn’t miss the chance to bring you a replay of a conversation I got to have last fall with a friend who is a pro on boundaries and showing up to your life with the best of yourself. You’ll discover how to set boundaries with care and compassion.  My friend Dr. Alison Cook is a Boston-based psychologist and author of two books, Boundaries for Your Soul and The Best of You.  She is a wife and mom to two adult children, and she specializes in bringing faith and psychology together for real change in people’s lives.  Join Alison and I for this conversation as we talk about:  How to find the healthy middle between never thinking of ourselves and only thinking of ourselves  Some commonly used (and misunderstood!) Scriptures that keep women playing small  Signs to look for when women give up on parts of themselves (and how to find our way back)  What it costs our loved ones when we shrink ourselves  Why noticing and naming struggles we see in ourselves is so essential to becoming whole Favorite quotes: “You can trust God and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, lonely, and broken inside.” “When I hide myself, make myself invisible, or play like a doormat it is not only bad for me, I’m not bringing the best of who I am to the people I love.” “When I’m really being my true self , when I’m aligned with myself, I’m empowering  other people which is what helps them heal and become who they really need to be.” “We are worth so much more than numbing through all the various ways we can check out. God wants so much more for us.” “When women are healthy we change the world.” Coaching this week:  What is the biggest mistake people make when starting a new project?  (41:41) Links to great things we discussed:  Alison Cook Website Alison Cook Instagram Alison Cook Facebook Boundaries for Your Soul The Best of You Easy on Me - Adele Abbott Elementary Armchair Expert Podcast Smartless Podcast Being Known Podcast The Ragamuffin Gospel Ruthless Trust Mattress Pads for Camping The Bear Christ Be In My Heart - Sam McCabe & Kristene DiMarco Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli https://www.alliworthington.com    

How to Discover the Secret Art of Confident Motherhood

Hey hey! Have you lost yourself in the demands of motherhood? Have you wondered if it’s possible to care for yourself well in the midst of a full life?  Today’s show is a special one, featuring the first two chapters of my newest book, Remaining You While Raising Them: The Secret Art of Confident Motherhood. This is not a parenting book about your children- those books are already out there! This is a motherhood book, and it’s about you. I wrote Remaining You While Raising Them to help women find freedom from the heavy weight of modern motherhood. I can’t give you a step-by-step plan to raise perfect children (an impossible dream!), but I can help you thrive as a happier, healthier mom.  Listen in on these audio chapters to hear:  One thing that bonds all moms together (besides our fierce love for our children) Personal stories from my own motherhood journey with five sons The shocking truth about the greatest gift we can give our kids Why motherhood is not just about what you do, but who you are (and what your kids will remember) Favorite quotes: “I had no idea motherhood would be my greatest joy and also the hardest thing I would ever do. I wasn’t prepared for how motherhood would change my life, and I certainly wasn’t prepared for how it would change me.” “Motherhood is harder, messier, crazier, and more amazing than anything we could have imagined.” “Modern motherhood may be broken, but we don’t have to let it break us anymore.” “Being the best mother you can be starts with learning to mother yourself.” “The greatest gift I can give my kids is to be an emotionally healthy mom and to model the way for them.” “A mother’s emotional health (her spiritual, mental, and relational health) is the most important legacy she can give her children.” “Motherhood isn’t about what you do, it’s about who you are.” Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli https://alliworthington.com/remaining-you-while-raising-them

How to Overcome Mom Guilt and Prioritize Self-Care

Tomorrow is the big day! My newest book, Remaining You While Raising Them, releases into the world, and I can’t wait for it to be in your hands!  To celebrate, my friend Phoebe Barron is here to turn the tables and interview me! Phoebe is the mental health consultant on Remaining You While Raising Them. She is a licensed counselor and counseling professor. She speaks to churches about emotional health and lives in Oklahoma with her husband, three kids, and fluffy golden doodle.  I’m thrilled for you to hear some of her perspectives firsthand (you know, I couldn’t resist sneaking in a few questions of my own!).  Join Phoebe and I as we discuss:  The single biggest driver of mom guilt (secret: it’s not your mom or your MIL) Why having a mother who models caring for herself and her needs is so important to our daughters (and our sons!) One magic question that keeps “taking care of mom” from becoming just another thing on your to-do list How trusting your gut and doing what’s best for your family are backed by research  My ultimate goal for writing THIS book Favorite quotes: “When I asked about mom guilt almost all women said they had mom guilt but the single biggest driver was social media.” “The most important thing we can do to be good moms is to make sure that we are as emotionally healthy as possible.” “Taking care of ourselves emotionally is the most selfless thing we can do for our families.” “Getting in the habit of saying what do I need right now is the ultimate self-care.” “There are a few ways of really parenting up. There are a ton of ways of getting it good enough and there are no ways of getting it perfect.” “Our job is to model health to our children, discipline our children, and give them discipline but most of all to love our children. If we do those things our kids are going to be just fine.”  Links to great things we discussed:  Remaining You While Raising Them Oppenheimer I’ve Witnessed It- Passion and Melodie Malone The Ordinary Glycolic Acid 7% Toning Solution Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli https://www.alliworthtington.com

How to Raise Kids with Love and Emotional Intelligence

Hey hey friend! If you’ve been here for a while, you know I am passionate about emotional health. I want good emotional health for all my friends (yes, you!), and I brought in one of the smartest people I know to help us get there. Terra Mattson is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor who has practiced for nearly two decades and oversees a team of 20 clinicians.  She’s a wife, a mom of two teenage girls, and passionate about helping moms raise their kids well. Terra and I go all in today on a conversation about my favorite topic: emotional well-being in moms and kids.   Listen in as Terra and I talk about:  Women discovering who they are apart from a specific role, even in the trenches of motherhood How to disentangle ourselves from unhealthy messaging about the calling of motherhood, even within (maybe especially within) the Church Why emotional regulation is an important piece of raising kids who love like Jesus How our emotions reflect our being made in the image of God Favorite quotes: “Our identity especially in the Christian community gets wrapped up in motherhood in good and not healthy ways." “The power of knowing our story and how it has influenced us is so important.” “Emotional regulation is one of the number one resources and modeling that we have to give our children.” “Each of us have something to offer and teach each other.” “We don’t have to be in competition. We can link arms and model a different way to our children.” “The work that you are doing at every stage of your children’s lives is affecting the relationship even today.”  “Think about the long haul while you are figuring out who you are.” Links to great things we discussed:  Terra Mattson Website Living Wholehearted Podcast Anatomy of the Soul - Curt Thompson Grove Co. Kitchen Wipes. Mission: Impossible - Dead Reckoning Part One Epionce Daily Shield Tinted SPF 50 Join the Launch Team! Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli www.alliworthington.com

How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome with Brittany Maher and Cassandra Speer

Around here, we love seeing women partner together to build amazing businesses, ministries, and more. I’ve got two Smart Girl guests for you today, and they’re here to tell you how it’s done! Brittany Maher and Cassandra Speer are the dynamic duo behind Her True Worth, an online community dedicated to helping women know their true worth and identity in Christ.  This powerhouse partnership has grown Her True Worth to over 1.6 million strong, and they have authored two books together, including a new devotional, There’s Beauty in Your Brokenness: 90 Devotions to Surrender Striving, Live Unburdened, and Find Your Worth in Christ.  Listen in as Brittany, Cass, and I discuss:  Overcoming imposter syndrome when you feel like a fraud (and trust us- it’s not just you!)  Why relationships are the key to our growth  Where our worth really comes from, apart from success The power of consistency  Favorite quotes: “If you don’t want to be an imposter don’t feel like one.” “To walk in our true worth of Christ derives from being and not doing.” “Show up where God has called you and steward what he has given you. Stewardship is often consistency.” “When you are intentional about amplifying the voices and giftings of others for the glory of God and you are seeking out opportunities to be generous with what little we have been given, it multiplies.”  “Start with the one and focus on the one.” “We have limitations and heartache on this side of heaven but we have access to holiness and healing in Him.” Links to great things we discussed:  Her True Worth Website Her True Worth Instagram There’s Beauty in Your Brokenness: 90 Devotions to Surrender Striving, Live Unburdened, and Find Your Worth in Christ. Living God - Red Rocks Worship 50 First Dates The Wedding Singer Lost Summer Baking Championship Asteroid City New York City’s Killing Me - Ray LaMontagne ChatGPT App Join the Launch Team! Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to eat the way we were designed with Leslie Schilling

Hey friend! So many women have (or have had) a complicated relationship with food, our bodies, or both. If you want to kick the lies of diet culture to the curb, this is a conversation you do not want to miss! My friend Leslie Schilling is a dietician and nutrition therapist who owns Schilling Nutrition, LLC, where she works in private practice helping people move toward health with a non-diet approach.  Leslie is also an award-winning author of two books, including her latest, Feed Yourself: Step Away From the Lies of Diet Culture and Into Your Divine Design.  She is a mom who wants a legacy that is better than body hatred for the next generation and freedom for our generation, too.  Lean in and listen as Leslie and I talk about:  How Leslie went from traditionally practicing sports nutrition to where she is today  Disordered eating practices that are often considered healthy in our culture The issues social media can cause in our relationships with food and our bodies Why weight loss and health promotion are not the same  The divine nature of body diversity  Leslie’s number one rule for getting back to eating the way we were designed to Favorite quotes: “Disordered eating is the rule not the exception.” “Social media is really problematic for everyone’s health. All of the comparisons are disordered.” “Body diversity is divine. We are meant to be all the sizes.” “Just start eating consistently and include foods you love.” “If you have good relationships and move your body in joyful ways those are the things that really matter and get good sleep.” “A feed body is one that can go live its purpose.” Links to great things we discussed:  Leslie Schilling Website Leslie Schilling Instagram Feed Yourself: Step Away From the Lies of Diet Culture and Into Your Divine Design The Book of Common Courage Enola Holmes Scole Chef Knife Indiana Jones and the Dial of Destiny River - Leon Bridges Join the Launch Team! Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to build your dreams with Stefanie Gass

Hey hey! If your story and career have had highs, lows, and lots of twists, you’re going to want to listen in on this conversation! Stefanie Gass has experienced the rollercoaster of success. She was the youngest financial controller in a global company at 26, then the company closed, and she was laid off.  She started with a network marketing company and worked her way up to the top 1%. By the following year, she had lost the majority of her income, and her family struggled to pay their bills.   Stefanie found her footing in entrepreneurship in online business! Today, she is a multi-six-figure CEO, podcast host, and Christian business and podcast coach.  Through her courses and coaching, Stefanie helps other women build their businesses via podcasting while staying present in their lives. And she does it all without relying on social media!  Join in as Stefanie and I discuss:  How Stefanie learned to find her identity apart from success Why knowing your natural response to things is a game-changer when it comes to moving forward How Stefanie has grown her podcast and business while being off of social media The first question to ask if you’re reevaluating your relationship with social media  Staying motivated on the days you just don’t have it in you to keep going  Stefanie’s advice on where to focus your efforts as you build your business  Favorite quotes: “The first question is: Lord, is there anything that I should make a change in or lay down that’s creating distraction from my purpose and the way you want to show up.” “For some people he wants to show you there is another way for you to either grow your business or your ministry. You don’t have to do it the world's way just because everyone else is doing it that way.” “The biggest most incredible changes that you make here on this side of heaven are the things you don’t even know about.” “Don’t create something and try to sell this thing that you have actually not done successfully yourself.” “Where is the fire in your business? Where is the data actually supporting that your people are coming from? Go pour fuel on the one fire until it is completely out of control.” Links to great things we discussed:  Stefanie Gass Website Online Business for Christian Women Podcast Ultimate Beastmaster Forehead Patches MeisterTask Spider-Man: Across the Spider-Verse KatelynMarieCustoms You Belong with Me - Taylor Swift Shake It Off - Taylor Swift Pure Encapsulations O.N.E. Multivitamin Nordic Naturals Omega-3s Google Certificates Remaining You While Raising Them Join the Launch Team! Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  

How to persevere with Natalie Runion

Hey friend! Have you ever been tempted to throw in the towel and walk away from your dreams or maybe even your calling? Our guest today for Smart Girl Summer gets it (and so do I!).  As a preacher’s kid who watched her family experience deep church hurt, Natalie Runion understands the desire to walk away. Even as an adult on the other side of that, working as a worship leader and songwriter, she wrestled with wanting to quit.  Today, Natalie is still a worship leader and songwriter. She’s also a wife, a mom, a sought-after speaker, and a first-time author. Her season of wanting to walk away became the foundation for her debut book, Raised to Stay: Persevering in Ministry When You Have a Million Reasons to Walk Away.  Whether you work in ministry or the marketplace, this conversation will encourage you to stay the course even when you want to bow out! Lean in and listen as Natalie and I talk about:  How she went from middle school gym teacher to where she is today Why abiding in Christ is central to our perseverance  How to balance all the things without letting mom guilt overwhelm us  The surprising role failure has in our dreams  Favorite quotes: “Ministry is wherever we are because he is in us.” “Being kind is a first form of ministry that we can offer each other.” “We are called to abide in Christ and when we abide in him even on the days we want to quit, he will still produce good fruit through us.” “As we get older we should be what we needed to the next generation.” “Christians were made to believe for the impossible.” “When we fail to fail we really don’t allow God to show up in the way he promises to do.” Links to great things we discussed:  Natalie Runion Website Natalie Runion Instagram Natalie Runion Facebook Raised to Stay: Persevering in Ministry When You Have a Million Reasons to Walk Away Nerds Rope Candy Friends The King of Queens The Office The Crown Urban Decay Lip Gloss Fast X Sweet Love of Mine - Joy Williams Discovery Cove Remaining You While Raising Them Join the Launch Team! Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to Love our Bodies with Alisa Keeton

Hey there! As the season of swimsuits and shorts, summer can bring up all kinds of feelings about our bodies. Women can feel afraid (or even ashamed) to talk about it. Today, we’re going there, and I’ve brought in a good friend for this special Smart Girl Summer episode to help us!  Alisa Keeton is the founder of Revelation Wellness, and she is on a mission to help women love God, get healthy, be whole, and love others.  Alisa is also an author, and her new book, The Body Revelation: Physical and Spiritual Practices to Metabolize Pain, Banish Shame, and Connect to God with Your Whole Self, is a tool to help women do just that.  Listen in our conversation as Alisa and I discuss:  Why we are prone to extremes when it comes to our bodies How getting healthy and being whole impacts how we love God and others The point in a new venture when most women quit (and why they shouldn’t give up!) How trauma affects our physical bodies, and why downplaying it is so detrimental The prayer you should pray if you’re not sure if your idea is your own or from the Lord Favorite quotes: “Your body has been designed by God. There is nothing about you that genetically is flawed.  He is on purpose with a purpose. Every body is a good body.” “Love God. Get healthy, be whole. Love others.” “I don’t think you need to be polite with Jesus. You have to be real with him and never let go.” “Before you had words for life to explain and have a worldview, your body was trying to tell you things and it has always been trying to tell you stuff.” “Before you go ask your friends or all the people you think you need their approval, sit down with the Lord. Take a day, pull away, go away, turn your phone off, and get in the Word and hear from Him. Once you have heard from Him, there’s no turning back.” “You know it is the Lord if you don’t stop thinking about it. It keeps coming up.” Links to great things we discussed:  Alisa Keeton Website Alisa Keeton Instagram Alisa Keeton Facebook Alisa Keeton Twitter Revelation Wellness The Body Revelation: Physical and Spiritual Practices to Metabolize Pain, Banish Shame, and Connect to God with Your Whole Self Pack Hydrafacial Air Lost What Would I Do Without You - Drew Holcomb & The Neighbors Perky-Pet Hummingbird Feeders Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli