The Alli Worthington Show

How to Talk About with Your Spouse with Shaunti Feldhahn

Hey hey! If you’ve ever wondered if you’re normal  regarding what you and your spouse do behind closed doors, this conversation is for you! Today, my friend Shaunti and I are talking about those things married people do in the bedroom. Before you get bashful and bow out, I promise we will use comfortable language for this often-uncomfortable topic. This conversation isn’t for little ones but is vital for married couples, and you don’t want to miss out on it! These insights are game-changers.  Shaunti has spent years on this intimate kind of research. We are going there today, discussing the questions that are sometimes difficult to ask Tune in to our conversation as we chat about: Why money and intimacy are so tough to talk about How can we open the conversation, so both spouses feel more comfortable talking about their needs The real reason we all want to know if we’re normal behind closed doors What most couples don’t know about desire I love how Shaunti helps us normalize talking about what matters to us this week. Did you catch her when she joined us to talk about how to find joy and happiness regardless of what’s going on around us?  Listen to that episode here. Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard-educated social researcher, speaker, and best-selling author of researched-based books, including her most recent, Secrets of and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference. Shaunti and her husband, Jeff, have co-authored several books together, including For Couples Only. They have two children and call Atlanta home.  Favorite quotes: ~“Those people who could talk about their intimate lives were far more likely to be satisfied with their intimate lives and to be connecting much more often.” ~“The key is that you have to talk about what matters to you.” ~“One way to get started is to dig into some of those heart issues with your spouse.” ~“Whoever has the initiating desire has to recognize your spouse is going to be making a decision based on how they feel about you that day and how close you are.” Coaching this week:  How do I convince my loved ones that coaching is a real and viable business?   (37:41) Links to great things we discussed:  Shaunti Feldhahn Website  Shaunti Feldhahn Instagram  Secrets of and Marriage Shaunti’s First Episode Hymn of Heaven The Crown Ghost Fleet  Triple Threat Color Stick I Wanna Dance with Somebody Last of Us The Unbearable Weight of Massive Talent The Coach School Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to Finally Start (or Grow) Your Business

If you’ve heard me talk about The Coach School and wondered, “Is this for me?” or “Is now the time?” this episode is for you! If you’re not a coach, stick around because this conversation may change your mind! In a fun twist, my friend Sahar Twesigye is taking over the show today, and I’m answering the questions! With Sahar’s help, I’m giving you an inside look at all things The Coach School.  Listen in on this conversation with Sahar and me as we talk about :  The two messages I kept hearing (and still hear!) from women that made me build The Coach School What kinds of coaches the world needs Why The Coach School may be a game-changer for you, even if you don’t think of yourself as a coach What you really need to know about a recession (and why it can be a great time to start or build your business!)   Sahar Twesigye is a multi-passionate entrepreneur and speaker. She is crazy about marketing and can help you with your own via her Pinterest course (you don’t want to miss that!). Sahar and her husband, Andrew, live in London with their four young children.  Favorite quotes: ~“The world needs great coaches who are values-driven and who want the best for people.”  ~“With the Coach School I wanted for you to have all the curriculum of a course but you also have people to help you. It is a very high-touch program.” ~“We need to get out of that scarcity mindset to invest in ourselves, our future, and our business.” ~“Women need help no matter how successful we look on the outside. Women need help.” ~“You will never feel like you are ready and you will never feel like the time is right. If we wait until we feel confident and have enough time we are going to be waiting forever.” ~“Don’t be afraid to invest in yourself because you can change the course of life for your family and it is a legacy to leave for your children.”  Links to great things we discussed:  Sahar Twesigye Website  Sahar Twesigye Podcast  Sahar Twesigye Instagram  Sahar Twesigye YouTube The Chosen Join The Coach School here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to Change the Way You Think with Megan Hyatt Miller

Hey friend! Have you ever felt stuck, like you’re circling the same issue in your life over and over? Or maybe you have dreams that feel out of reach because you don’t know how to move forward?  If either of those applies to you, I’ve got some good news! Change is possible.  There is a way forward. This episode will help you get there! Listen in on this great conversation with my friend Megan Hyatt Miller who (literally) wrote the book on why our thoughts matter and how we can change them.  Megan and I don’t hold back on this conversation, friend! While it’s normal to struggle with limiting beliefs at times, we don’t have to get stuck there.  Tune in to learn more about:  What science says about how our brains are wired (and why this is good news for anyone who feels stuck!) What happens when we feel uncomfortable (and what we can do about it!) Why the stories we tell ourselves feel so true, even when they aren’t One quick action step you can take today to change your mindset Megan Hyatt Miller is the President & CEO of Michael Hyatt & Company, host of the popular business podcast Lead to Win, and author of the new book, Mind Your Mindset. Megan and her husband, Joel, have five children and live in Franklin, Tennessee.  Favorite quotes: ~“If we go upstream from our actions we can actually produce way better results then if we just double down on new and different actions without understanding what is driving those in the first place.”  ~“Your brain can change. You actually can cut new pathways when you learn to leverage your thinking.” ~“We are not victims to the thoughts that come into our head and that is not the final word.” ~“We want to take the stories that are disempowering and we want to be intentional about rewriting those.” ~“You get a choice in what you believe about yourself, the world, and other people.” Coaching this week:  Signs you could be an amazing coach. (30:03) Links to great things we discussed:  Megan Hyatt Miller Megan Hyatt Miller IG  Mind Your Mindset Every Little Kiss - Bruce Hornsby All Creatures Great and Small CEO Excellence - Carolyn Dewar, Scott Keller, & Vikram Malhotra Instacart Stanley Cup with Straw Puss in Boots: The Last Wish Resurrender - Hillsong Worship ft. Brooke Ligertwood Red Light Therapy Light The Coach School Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to Be Compassionate with Carlos Whittaker

Hey hey! The last three years have done a number on us, haven’t they? If you have found yourself looking around and thinking, “What is going on with people?” or even, “What has happened to us?” You are not alone!  Join me as I talk with my friend Carlos Whittaker about those kinds of thoughts and his new book, How to Human: Three Ways to Share Life Beyond What Distracts, Divides, and Disconnects Us.   Carlos and I go all in, talking about how we are supposed to do this life as humans who live from a place of compassion. Listen in as Carlos and I discuss:  What actually has happened to us the last three years, and how can we course-correct Three keys to being a human who is compassionate and empathetic The fantastic work Carlos’ “InstaFamilia” has done as a community, and the backstory of how they got started  The importance of finding that thing that makes you come alive Carlos Whittaker is a gifted storyteller, but his greatest gift is the ability to make people feel seen. He is a global speaker, podcast host of Human Hope, and author of four books, including his latest, How to Human. Carlos and his wife, Heather, live with their family in Nashville, Tennessee.  Favorite quotes: “We have to be very intentional about getting back to who we were created to be and getting back to the humanity we were created in the image of God.”  - Carlos Whittaker “Be who you were created to be.” -Carlos Whittaker “It is important to find the thing that makes you come alive. There is something that makes you come alive. You just haven’t figured it out yet.” -Carlos Whittaker “The change has to start with us.”  -Carlos Whittaker Coaching this week:  If you have one piece of advice for someone growing her coaching business, what would it be? (27:53) Links to great things we discussed:  Carlos Whittaker  Carlos Whittaker Instagram  How to Human: Three Ways to Share Life Beyond What Distracts, Divides, and Disconnects Us Avatar Avatar: The Way of Water The Man in the High Castle The Last of Us An Interrupted Life the Diaries, 1941-1943 and Letters from Westerbork  Insta360 1 Second Everyday CubeTime BeReal. The Coach School Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Parenting Well with Sandra & Andy Stanley

Hey friend! When it comes to parenting, have you ever wondered if you’re getting it right? What does success look like as a parent anyway? If you’re a parent, have a parent, or want to be a parent, don’t wait to listen to this episode! I had a fantastic conversation with Andy and Sandra Stanley about their new book, Parenting: Getting It Right.  With three grown children who love each other and love being together, even now that they no longer have to and can make those decisions for themselves, Andy and Sandra don’t hold back on sharing what they’ve learned in raising their family.  Listen in as Andy, Sandra, and I discuss all things parenting, like: How establishing their end goal for raising their children shaped their parenting decisions Why the law of the harvest applies to parenting (and why you can’t ignore it!) One of the most important things we can help our kids understand about their behavior Why teaching kids how to repair and restore relationships so is important Andy Stanley is the founder of North Point Ministries, with eight Atlanta-area churches and a network of 180 churches around the world, a gifted communicator, and the author of over 20 books. Sandra Stanley is the author of two devotionals, and she loves speaking and writing about faith, family, and fostering.   They have three grown children, whom Sandra homeschooled, and Parenting: Getting It Right is their first book.   Favorite quotes: “Your potential relationship with your adult children is much longer than the years or seasons you are in right now. Later is longer and you are sowing now you repent a healthy adult relationship with your kids.”  - Andy Stanley “Parenting with that relationship in mind gets us to the finish line.”  -Sandra Stanley “We don’t have rules just because we want to have rules. We have rules for reasons and to protect relationships. Our consequences for breaking the rules in our home were all tied to restoring the relationship.” -Andy & Sandra Stanley “One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is a healthy marriage.” -Andy Stanley “A great marriage sets our kids up for success in a lot of ways.”  -Sandra Stanley Coaching this week: Habits for Moms: all about the power of 1% better and our trajectories. (30:17) Links to great things we discussed:  Andy’s Website Andy & Sandra’s Book - Parenting: Getting It Right The Last Kingdom 1923 Heaven - Bryan Adams This is My Song - North Point Worship Worthy of My Song - Phil Wickham The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry - John Mark Comer When Crickets Cry - Charles Martin How We Got to Now- Steven Johnson From Strength to Strength - Arthur Brook TheraGun Mini Worship for Fierce Faith Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How We Relate to God, Ourselves, and Others with Jesse Eubanks

Welcome back, friends!  I can’t wait for you to listen to today’s conversation with Enneagram coach and podcast host Jesse Eubanks as we discuss his soon-to-released book, How We Relate: Understanding God, Yourself, and Others through the Enneagram.  Ok, so I’m going to come right out and say it… It’s very intriguing to consider the Enneagram alongside our relationship with God, isn’t it?! Jesse and I discuss so much in this one, including ways to experience more meaningful relationships with God, others, and ourselves. The value of understanding how we approach our relationships is the same way we approach our relationship with God as well. Jesse Eubanks is a certified Enneagram coach and host of The EnneaCast, a podcast exploring personality and relationships through the lens of the Enneagram. He is also the founder and executive director of Love Thy Neighborhood, an urban missions agency putting young adults on the front lines of nonprofit work. Jesse and his wife, Lindsay, have two children and live in Louisville, Kentucky.   Listen in to learn more about: The nine essential desires and how one comes to the forefront in our lives. Some of Jesse’s cardinal rules for using the Enneagram and why they are essential to consider. The three vital underlying emotions that are harming us and their antidotes. Favorite quotes: ~~“You can not have healthy relationships without self clarity. Self clarity is essential. It is essential for intimacy with other people, intimacy with God, and emotional flourishing. You need a tool to help you grow in your ability to see yourself from the outside and the Enneagram can serve you in that way. It will absolutely lead to deeper, more fulfilling relationships with God, other people, and yourself.” ~~“Our story that we have lived has a profound influence on who we are. We can’t understand our personality and our Enneagram type apart from understanding our life story.”  ~~“The Enneagram as a tool can definitely be utilized to help us grow in our self awareness and have an understanding of what’s happening on our end of the relationships we have with other people.”  ~~“It is really important to understand we are wielding something powerful when we look into the Enneagram and we suddenly have insights into other people. We have to approach that with a huge degree of humility, kindness, and empathy.”  This week’s coaching segment: A simple trick to make a new habit stick while giving yourself grace. (27:51) Links to great things we discussed:  Love Thy Neighborhood Love Thy Neighborhood Podcast and The EnneaCast The Two Day Rule - Matt D'Avella Andor Avatar: The Way of Water A Million Pretty Pieces - Nightly Spirit Break Out - Kim Walker-Smith Electric Kettle Alli’s Worship for Fierce Faith - Spotify Play List Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Live Free From Time Anxiety with Jen Pollock Michel

Hey, hey, everyone! Today I welcome show writer, speaker, coach, and podcast host, Jen Pollock Michel for a very insightful (and much-needed) conversation about our love-hate relationship with our clocks and the anxiety it often brings to our lives. Be sure to listen to how Jen discusses a couple of truths she has landed on, including-  “Time belongs not to us but to God.”  “There is always enough time to do what God has planned.” Whew. So good but often so hard to live, am I right, friends?!  She reminds us of the importance of living not in our timing or the timing of others but in having the courage to live in God’s timing for our lives.  So much wisdom is found in what Jen discovered while writing her most recent book titled, In Good Time: 8 Habits for Reimagining Productivity, Resisting Hurry, and Practicing Peace…. I promise you don’t want to miss out on this eye-opening conversation! Jen Pollock Michel holds a B.A. in French from Wheaton College, an M.A. in Literature from Northwestern University, and is working on completing an M.F.A from Seattle Pacific University. After eleven years of living in Toronto, Jen now lives in Cincinnati with her husband and two youngest children. Listen in to learn more about: What time anxiety is and how it plays out in our lives, whether we're trying to find time, save it, manage it, or make the most of it. Some of the assumptions we often have concerning time management and how we can ground our lives in God’s timing. The eight practical habits for reimagining productivity and how embracing those will help us develop a healthier relationship with the clock. Favorite quotes: “A faithful life is a courageous life. Tuning our ears to God’s voice takes a lot of courage.”  “A practical place to start is to think about habits and practices of everyday life.”   “There is not a right way. It is actually living every day in faithful response to God’s voice. ”  Coaching this episode:  The Secret to Habits Without the Hassle  (27:00) Links to great things we discussed:  Jen Pollock Michel - Website  In Good Time: 8 Habits for Reimagining Productivity, Resisting Hurry, and Practicing Peace By Jen Pollock Michel Counterproductive: Time Management in the Knowledge Economy By Melissa Gregg Glittering Vices: A New Look at the Seven Deadly Sins and Their Remedies By Rebecca Konyndyk DeYoung The Bear  Madmen  L'Occitane Pure Shea Butter Atomic Habits By James Clear Avatar: The Way of Water I Thank God - Maverick City Music Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How To Overcome the Fear of the Future with Alli

Merry day after Christmas, friends!  How about we just start today’s episode with this thought… I think it’s safe to say none of us are disappointed that 2022 is on its way out the door.  As I planned what to talk about on the show today, I couldn’t help but think about how we’re all continuing to process everything that has happened this year (and the last two years really!) while also planning for the one to come.  With that in mind, I felt a little nudge that I needed to talk about Chapter 9 of my book, Fierce Faith: A Woman's Guide to Fighting Fear, Wrestling Worry, and Overcoming Anxiety. In 2017, I titled that chapter “What If Things Fall Apart?” and I don’t think anything could be more relevant now.  I'm so excited to share the chapter with you today. I sincerely hope that this chapter brings peace about the future and encourages you to find your own stones of remembrance to remind you of God's faithfulness along the way. Listen in to hear all about: How fear can paralyze us from making our dreams come true. What can happen when we wait for the perfect moment to take action (and how it can keep us wandering around the desert for 40 years). What God really thinks about our plans to become successful in all that we do. Links: Order your copy of Fierce Faith here You can also join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How To Prayerfully Ask for What You Need with Alli

On the show today, we’ll dive into Chapter 10 of my latest book, Standing Strong. This chapter, titled Ask For It: I’m Relearning How Prayer Really Works, is especially relevant today as we all look towards 2023 and what next year may bring.  In Chapter 10, I share how God revealed to me that he genuinely wants to partner with each of us in our journey and how an intentional walk with him is the adventure of a lifetime. But it all starts with prayer, my friends.  Prayer is powerful, and we know that. However, our prayers also have the power to change God’s mind. He always listens because He cares about us and knows what matters to us.  Inviting Him through prayer helps us better understand his plan for our lives, even when we resist because we think we have it all figured out.  So as we approach the end of 2022, I challenge you to ask for what you need in full faith that God will give you what is best for you. Listen in to hear all about: How the ways we view God determine how we live our lives. To step into the life God has called you to, you must know the truth and partner with it. Instead of living in the land of “good enough,” we should ask God to show us His “immeasurably more.” Order your copy of Standing Strong here. You can also join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How To Hear God More Clearly with Pete Greig

Have you ever wondered if you’re hearing God or just listening for what you want to hear? Me too, friend! This is why I’m re-airing an episode  I had earlier this year with Pete Greig as he talks with me about how to hear God, which I believe to be one of the most important topics we’ve ever covered on the show. (Hence the re-air because it never hurts to hear important information more than once, am I right?!) Pete and I discuss why hearing God speak to us is so challenging for some. And we also talk about how to identify what’s actually the voice of God and ways to sort through delusion and deception. We are covering so much ground in this episode! Pete has committed his life to help people hear the voice of God and facilitating the supernatural outpouring of His word and truth throughout the world. In addition to being a best-selling author, Greig is one of the founding champions of the earth-rattling 24-7 Prayer Movement and Senior Pastor of Emmaus Road Church in the south of England. Listen in to hear all about: Why we are comfortable talking to God but not so much talking with God. Differentiating between when God is speaking to us and what isn’t actually God at all. How to determine the difference between God’s word and God’s whisper (and why it matters!).  Favorite quotes: ~ How do ordinary, normal people, grow in the most important thing we’ll ever do, which is walking and talking with God? ~ Ask yourself : a) Is this affirming? b) Is it Biblical? c) Is it Christlike? If the answer is yes, this is affirming, biblical, and Christlike, then it will be good even if it isn’t God. ~ We need to hear God in community. We often need to discern God's will with other people, not just our own thoughts. In this episode I answered this question: I feel uncomfortable building a platform. How can I do it in a healthy way? (42:12) Links to great things we discussed:  Connect with Pete Greig @ 24/7 Prayer  How to Hear God -Book Lectio 365 app Taylor Swift - Red Belfast Movie The Land of the Living - Jonathan and Melissa Hesler  The Fabelmans Oh Come Let Us Adore Him Sacksy Thyme     Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli