The Alli Worthington Show

How to Lazy Genius Your Kitchen with Kendra Adachi

Today,  the Lazy Genius is moving us into the kitchen. Yep, you heard that right, friends! The Lazy Genius (and self-proclaimed professional permission giver) Kendra Adachi joins me on the show today to share how when she couldn’t find a book like The Lazy Genius Kitchen for herself over the years, she decided to write it!  Listen in as Kendra tells us how she wants this book to help the cookbooks you already have, the items in your kitchen, your rhythms, basically all the kitchen-related things in your life, ALL OF IT, to work better for you. Kendra’s book is described not as a cookbook but as a lifeline. Trust me when I say you absolutely don’t want to miss out on this one!  Kendra Adachi went to college to become a high school English teacher but instead became the Lazy Genius, passionately and candidly sharing how to stop doing it all for the sake of doing what matters.  Listen in to learn more about: The 7 things Kendra does every Sunday to prep for her week + the noise of extra in our kitchens (well, our lives, actually). How to tell if a recipe is any good. Fun side note here: it has to do with salt, heat, and fat… you’re welcome for that info! Asking the magic question… What can I do now to make something easier later?  Favorite quotes: 1. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. 2. Take away the things that are in the way of what matters to you. It is a great thing when we remove the noise and focus of what does matter 3. You have permission to love something even if you think other people will think it’s silly. 4. Ask yourself the magic question: What can I do now to make my life easier later? 5. We all have different priorities and we need to not apologize for them. When we learn to accept that, we’ll all be a lot happier. In this episode I answered this question: I am a new entrepreneur and need a mentor. How do I find one? (58:26) Links to great things we discussed:  The Lazy Genius Collective The Lazy Genius Kitchen Jacob Collier - Fix You Cover We Don’t Talk About Bruno Stay Close Harlan Coben Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson Owala Water Bottle IMDB App Fantastic Beasts: The Secrets of Dumbledore The Best is Yet to Come MAC: Satin Taupe Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli www.alliworthington.com/kendraadachi2/

How to Stop Performing for Your Worth with Mary Marantz

You cannot achieve your way into worth. Full stop. Oh, friends, did you feel the weight of that statement along with me. Be sure to listen in today as Mary and I discuss her soon-to-release (and absolutely beautiful, I might add) devotional, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots. This is a message that I believe will resonate with so many women. The woman who feels like she must always be "on." The one who is always performing. You know her. Maybe you are her. Mary shares some practical ways to move from achieving, striving, and performing for our worth to the grace, freedom, and purpose that come from knowing our identities and callings are determined by God. Whether you lean toward what Mary describes as the Performer, the Contortionist, the Tight-Rope Walker, the Masquerader, the Illusionist, or all of the above, this is a conversation you won’t want to miss out on! Mary Marantz is a speaker, an entrepreneur, plus the bestselling author of Dirt and her soon-to-release book, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots. She is also the podcast host of The Mary Marantz Show. She lives in an 1880s fixer-upper by the sea in New Haven, Connecticut, with her husband Justin and their two very fluffy golden retrievers, Goodspeed & Atticus. Listen in to learn more about: Signs that you may have an achievement orientation/mentality. How we must release other people’s dreams and expectations of us. The filter we walk through life with and how that can affect everything. Favorite quotes: For those of us who did not grow up with a lot, a self-preservationist switch got flipped. It can appear to the outside world as selfish or self-absorption, but we just feel like we are trying to survive. So many of us are walking around -we are ears to dreams that we have never dreamed, hopes that we have never hoped , a crystal plated version of the good life that someone else has held on our behalf. I started treating God like a Pez dispenser, keeping the sugary sweets and the highs of getting everything I ever wanted of more of success coming. Never mind the anemic in my faith, in the process. Never mind that what I actually needed besides a filling is an extraction of all the I have tried to fill my life with just so the raw nerve endings go quiet for a while - It never works.  Have you ever reached a point where you are starting to get tired of all of this achieving and  running and acquiring and accumulating? Then none of the other stuff is going to work.  Links to great things we discussed:  Mary Marantz- Website Golden Girls - TV show Yellow Stone - TV Show American Underdog - Movie Shauna Niequist Book  - I guess I haven't learnt that yet  Peloton app Hatch app Glossier Cosmetics What's your achiever type - Quiz Rest on us song - Maverick City  Tarte - Amazonian clay blush Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli https://alliworthington.com/marymarantz/

How to Make Smart Decisions with Andy Stanley

Today’s episode is a special one! Actually, I get so many questions about making great decisions during our coaching time, I knew it was time to share one of my favorite episodes. I’m still absolutely giddy that I got to talk to him! Andy tells us about his most recent book, Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets, and even gives us a peek into the five game-changing questions he believes we should ask ourselves every time we need to make a decision. He also gives us a solid framework for making wise decisions and some guardrails for how to avoid the bad ones. I hope it’s helpful to hear this one again as we consider how every decision we make matters as we keep moving forward in 2022! Andy Stanley is a pastor, author, and podcaster who founded Atlanta-based North Point Ministries (NPM) in 1995. Today, NPM consists of eight churches in the Atlanta area and a network of 180 churches around the globe that collectively serve over 200,000 people weekly. As host of Your Move with Andy Stanley and author of more than 20 books, he is considered one of the most influential pastors in America. Andy and his wife, Sandra, have three grown children and live near Atlanta. Listen in to learn more about: The power of asking the right questions when it comes to a decision. How decision-making can shape your life story in a beautiful way. How to develop strength and maturity as a decision-maker. Favorite quotes: We all ask questions. If we are willing to embrace some more penetrating questions. And get in the habit of asking those every time we make even a medium sized decision, we're just going to make better decisions. The proof that there's a relationship between good decisions and good questions is this: when people think about their worst decision, whether it's a financial decision, business decision, or a relationship decision. On the other side of a bad decision, we always think or even say: I should have asked more questions. Which is true. Because if we ask the right questions on the front end, we generally have fewer regrets on the back end. To lead ourselves well we have to be honest with ourselves. The decisions you're making right now are part of the story that you're going to tell. So write a good story. Our greatest regrets are the regrets where we stepped over the moral line, the ethical line, the legal line. Our greatest regrets are always preceded by a series of unwise decisions. When we live within the realm of wisdom, we stay away from the edge of disaster. In this episode I answered this question: Could you give me one tip that would make me a better communicator? (37:46)    What's the difference between religion and a relationship with Jesus? (39:14)   How do you know how much to charge for your services? (44:49) Links to great things we discussed:  Andy Stanley Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets The Trial of the Chicago 7 Holy, Holy, Holy Standing Strong Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Not Be Defined By Our Pain with Shauna Niequist

Are you reeling from the extraordinary changes we’ve experienced over the past two years in one way or another? (My hand is raised over here for sure!) Today, the amazing  Shauna Niequist joins me to discuss her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet, and share her story of finding herself after a tough season. I don’t know about you, friend, but this book and her message feels relevant to what’s going on around me right now. I hope you find value in it, too.  Shauna and I take a deep dive into how pain can tenderize us, make us demand less of the world, and show us the good even in the face of what has been lost. We also talk about how seasons of significant loss can act as catalysts to significant transformation in our lives. Our pain doesn’t define us; what we do with it does. You truly don’t want to miss this one, my friend! Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and her soon-to-release book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their sons, Henry and Mac.   Listen in to learn more about: The concept of finding your next self. The importance of taking care of ourselves, even a willingness to fight for our health. Ways to live lightly and be a person who is easily delighted. Favorite quotes: If you feel overwhelmed by the mess that your life has become, don't try to go through that alone. We don't change when we are feeding ourselves a steady diet of shame and abuse. We change when we anchor ourselves in love and self-esteem - That’s what gives us the courage to make changes. I want to walk through life not dragging around these resentments, grudges and complaints. I want to live with a sense of freedom, with a lot of space inside myself,  inside my heart for possibility for the present and the future instead of feeling like I am dragging my past behind me like an anchor. I want to maintain the capacity to be easily delighted. I want to be a person for whom joy comes easily and frustration is harder to come by. Pain can tenderize you and can make you demand less of the world and can show you what’s good even in the face of what’s been lost. Great things we discussed:  Shauna Niequist - Website Shauna Niequist - Instagram Soy Yo - Song  The Crown - TV Series  Below Deck - TV Series  Tick Tick Boom - Movie  Wordle Bag All Store jeen-yuhs - Kanye Documentary This is the Kingdom - Song  Ipsy Website Tarte - Amazonian Clay Bronzer Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/shaunaniequist/

How to Live a Meaningful Life with Joshua Becker

Welcome friend! Have you ever found yourself wanting to spend hours talking to someone who is not only interesting but also interested in what you have to say? Allow me to introduce you to my friend Joshua Becker. Joshua is here to talk to us about living a meaningful life with no regrets. He shares how we can move past the things holding us back and how we don’t feel as much regret if we are in service to others. You know that I just love when research backs up what we’ve known for thousands of years.  Joshua Becker is a prolific author, father of two, and founded a nonprofit organization for orphans called The Hope Effect. He is also the founder and editor of Becoming Minimalist, a website dedicated to intentional living for the last 13 years. (He’s been blogging on the internet almost as long as I have!).  Listen in to learn more about:  Joshua’s journey from being a youth pastor in Vermont to being a full-time blogger and embracing his minimalist journey.  What minimalism is and how others can push back against it. How to overcome past mistakes that may make you feel regretful. Practical steps for those who choose to become more minimalist. Favorite quotes: Possessions were not the only distraction that kept me from pursuing my best and most meaningful, fruitful life.  Why would I want to chase more money if I don’t need more money to live on? Admit the mistakes, notice them and do your best to learn from them. We can redeem our past mistakes if we allow them to recreate who we are. Minimalism, to me,  has always been removing the things I don't need, so I can focus on pursuits that are more important in the short run and long run.  Great things we discussed:  Fitbod app The Greatest Salesman in the World - Book The Office deep dive podcast The Office - TV series Elevation worship - Iheart radio Costco - Stroopwafels Joshua Becker website  Inventing Anna - Netflix series The Crown - TV series Ray LaMontagne - It's always been you If my marriage had a soundtrack  - Spotify Playlist Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli www.alliworthington.com/joshuabecker/

How to Survive the In-Between with Jordan Lee Dooley

Hi friend! You are in the right place! Do you feel like you are in-between seasons? Things seem to both move too fast and too slow, and you’re generally unsure of which direction to go on almost everything in your life. My friend Jordan Lee Dooley joins me today to talk about her upcoming book and share her story and heart about what to do when you are in the “in-between.” We also discuss how broken dreams make us rethink everything. (Hello, the last two years!)  The fantastic thing is that even the wins of our perceived failures (along with God’s love) can make you a better and happier you. I just love Jordan’s message, and I hope our conversation provides you encouragement and reassurance today. Listen in to learn more about: Coming to terms when your dreams and goals don’t seem to go to plan. Coping with burn out and fatigue. The wisdom to live in the season of the  ‘middle’.  Favorite quotes: ~ Most of our lives are actually lived in the middle, we aim for the mountain top moments and the moments where we have the victory and cross the finish line but the majority of the time of the race that we run is spent running the race and enduring the sore legs and fatigue.  ~ There is very little that we can control the outcome on, what we can control is our effort. ~ Implementing a sabbath, creating a regular rhythm of rest, consistently for a year, was helpful for us, our marriage and family.  ~ There are so many things, weeds , lies, beliefs etc that can take root in the gardens of our lives, our hearts and minds and it can feel impossible to get out but assigning them to a physical activity like decluttering a closet is representative of something that I am trying to remove from my life and allowing for good things to grow in my life.  ~ Success is not just outcome oriented, it can also be process oriented. ~ Success comes down to being content in the middle and being content in the present  while being clear about what you value so you can make intentional steps towards the future. Links to great things we discussed:  Wait on you - song Names - Song 1883 - TV series Yellowstone - TV series The Proposal - Movie Red Notice - Movie It ends with us Book  - Colleen Hoover  How to Heal your Metabolism Book - Kate Deering  In shot app Crunchi makeup  Primally pure hair products Jordan's website The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel TV Series John Mayer's Album - Room for squares Clinique Chubby Stick blush Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/jordanleedooley2/

How to Hear God with Pete Greig

Have you ever wondered how to actually hear God? You’re not alone, friend! And today’s episode is going to prove that. Pete Greig is with me to talk about one of the most important topics we’ve ever covered on the show. We talk about why hearing God talk to us is so challenging for some and how to tell when the signs that what we think we hear are not actually God’s word.  We also dive into his new book, “ How To Hear God: A Simple Guide For Normal People” and why it is so important for Christians to learn how to sort through delusion and deception.  This is such an awesome conversation, I just can’t wait for you to listen to it.  Pete has committed his life to helping people hear the voice of God and facilitating the supernatural outpouring of His word and truth throughout the world. In addition to being a best-selling author, Greig is one of the founding champions of the earth-rattling 24-7 Prayer Movement and Senior Pastor of Emmaus Road Church in the south of England. Listen in to learn more about: Why we are comfortable talking to God but not so much talking with God The ABCs of when God is speaking to you and signs that what we are hearing isn’t God at all The difference between God’s word and God’s whisper Why dreams and vision played a role in scripture but not so much in recent times Lectio Divina and how to use it as a way of hearing God  Favorite quotes: Ask yourself : a) Is this affirming? b) Is it Biblical? c) Is it Christlike  We need to hear God in community. ( Col 1;27).  We often need to discern God's will with other people, not just our own.  It is weird how weird we get about God, considering by definition, if He is the creator of normality then He has the right to inhabit normality.  One of the keys to hearing God is to learn to slow down, Be still and tune in to the things He is whispering to us in the normality of our lives. We all have times when we can no longer see God, hear God or feel God the way we did before. It is not His absence it is His presence manifested in a new way and He is doing it to mature us , grow us and teach us some new skills. It wont go on forever but hang in there and you will return to a season where you will Hear God the way you used to. PRAY - Pause, Read and Reflect, Ask and Yield. Great things we discussed:  Lectio 365 app Taylor Swift - Red Belfast Movie The Land of the Living - Jonathan and Melissa Hesler  Pete Greig's website How to Hear God -Book  Only murders in the building Chandler Moore - King of Kings Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  https://alliworthington.com/petegreig/  

How to Embrace Imperfection in Motherhood with Heather MacFadyen

We’ve all heard the phrase, “It takes a village to raise a child.” But so many moms feel alone. Whether it’s internal pressure of trying to be the perfect mom or external standards we’re trying to meet that we find all over Instagram. Well, friends, my guest today is going to help us be our authentic true selves while raising our kids.    Heather MacFadyen is here to break motherhood down for us. Together, we open up about motherhood and what trying to be the perfect mom really does to us. We also chat about how parenting is harder now than 15 years ago (it totally is!), why we tend to feel guilt, especially in Christian circles, and the barriers that keep us from being vulnerable and honest as moms.    Heather shares about the dangers of comparison and how she almost decided to stop recording her podcast last year. We also dive into her book, Don’t Mom Alone, and how she shares relatable stories that remind moms they are never alone in the pursuit of becoming the best mom they can be.    Heather is an author, podcast host, and mom of four boys and has been encouraging moms to support each other on their motherhood journeys for almost 10 years on her popular podcast, Don’t Mom Alone.   This is a conversation that all mothers need to hear.   Listen in to learn more about:  How to stop comparing ourselves to other moms (and practical tips to implement!) How comparison truly is the thief of joy, not just an Insta-worthy quote The importance of community as a mother–even when community doesn’t come naturally   Favorite quotes: Raising a human being is hard, so every person is limited. There is no way I am going to have the ability to see everything that my kids are going to go through. I am not omniscient,  I am not all powerful - If they get hurt in my presence it is not cos I missed something. Pain is reality and so to free myself from feeling that it is all up to me was such  a huge gift to mothering I just want to free moms from having all the information and from doing it all right. We have to ask ourselves what’s going on in my heart that I feel like I am the only one who needs to be there to care for our children. We have to do the inner work and release ourselves from feeling like we are God. I am important but I am not essential. It’s not essential because we are not God, we are not creators although it feels like we created them. Moms, in general, are not very aware of what we are feeling at any given moment because our energy is really focused on whether everyone else is OK. Links to great things we discussed:  Frank Sinatra  Stand by Me movie Good Will Hunting Yellowstone series The Marvelous Mrs Maisel Becoming Mrs. Lewis - Book Once upon a wardrobe - Book Nuuly Store Alexa app Heather's Don't mom alone - podcast Heather MacFadyen's website Uncharted movie Honey in the rock song Liverpool Jeans Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to live with hope and more happiness with Nicole Zasowski

What if hope only leads to disappointment? If this question has ever crossed your mind, today’s episode is for you, friend! My new friend, Nicole Zasowski, is on the show today and, let me tell you, she is a breath of fresh air. She shares her perspective with us on toxic positivity, celebration, and hope. And she’s a therapist, so her perspective is particularly welcome today! Nicole and I take a deep dive into why we are afraid to feel joy and what we can do about it.  For so many of us, we skip our celebrations as a way to avoid touching someone else's pain. We also talk about her latest book, What If It’s Wonderful?, and the importance of everyday celebrations.  I’m so inspired by Nicole’s insights and honesty about our hesitations and the way she illuminates a path to less fear and more happiness. Our conversation reminds us how God wants us to be joyful and happy.  Nicole is a mom, wife, licensed marriage therapist, and From Lost to Found author. She enjoys writing and speaking on topics that merge her professional knowledge, faith, and personal experience. Listen in to learn more about:  Toxic positivity and how it impacts us Foreboding joy and how joy can be vulnerable Practical ways we can celebrate in our everyday lives and why we should.    Favorite quotes: Joy is not off limits to us in pain and what it does is that it trusts what’s possible with God in the midst of pain. Joy and celebration have to be avenues of not only experiencing God’s presence, but learning and growing too, even in the midst of pain. Savoring celebrates the ordinary.  Thanksgiving is the expression of that gratitude and the way of sharing it and is a way of celebrating the gift with the Giver. A celebratory life is making a beautiful life with God right where you are not the perfect circumstances. We have somehow made happiness the hedonist version of joy.   Great things we discussed:  Fear - Ben Rector song Yellowstone TV show 1883 TV show The Way of the Heart - Book The Personal Librarian - Book Eucalyptus shower steamers Tezza app NYT cooking app Nicole Zasowski's website The Chosen - TV show Speak to the Mountains song - Chris McClarney Enjoy Life foods Confident Motherhood Facebook Group Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to Prepare for Lent with Tsh Oxenreider

One of the reasons I started this podcast was to create a way to learn something every week. Well, friends, Tsh Oxenreider came prepared to teach me all about Lent. Growing up Southern Baptist, I had a surface level understanding of Lent and the importance of it. So when Tsh wanted to talk about the divine aspects of Lent and how to observe it, I knew you might find our conversation interesting. Her most recent book Bitter & Sweet: A Journey into Easter is a kind companion for your walk through Lent. Since it's the Monday before Ash Wednesday, I hope you’ll find our conversation interesting and informative. I know I did! Tsh Oxenreider is the bestselling author of several books, most notably Shadow and Light: A Journey into Advent and At Home in the World, her memoir about her family’s year traveling around the world and living out of backpacks. She’s also a travel guide, teacher, and podcaster, and she lives in Georgetown, Texas, with her husband and three children. She is equally happy snorkeling the Great Barrier Reef with her family and putzing around her own backyard.  Listen to learn more about: Understanding the significance of the 6 weeks leading to Easter, starting from Ash Wednesday.   The Three Pillars of Lent. The 5 questions to ask yourself when you are deciding what to give up for Lent. Favorite quotes: Lent is a gift that I am truly grateful for. It is not something God demands of us, it is something that God gives us through the Church. The beauty of lent is so much more than what we can give up. Lent is a slow journey towards Easter where we start off with the hard and we end up with a sense of redemption about the practices we have participated in. In tandem with the letting go you are also adding something good to your life -that is the beauty of Lent. It’s helpful when you are praying about what to fast from for Lent  to know that you are going to mess up, meaning the point of this is not to do it perfectly. In this episode I answer this question:  How can I overcome procrastination? (34:50) Links to great things we discussed:  1. Tsh's Website  2. Encanto Movie  Soundtrack 3. Downton Abbey 4. Zebra Ballpoint pens 5. Readkit App  6. Atomic Habits 7. Standing Strong Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli