The Alli Worthington Show

The Truth About Navigating Changes in Life with Andi Andrew

Today, we are going to learn from my friend, Andi Andrew.  She will help us understand how to face change bravely, navigate it properly, and come through stronger on the other side.   Andi Andrew hosts the Coffee with Andi podcast and has written four books: She Is Free, Fake or Follower, and Friendship--It's Complicated. She is a heartfelt preacher who loves to see the reality of the gospel worked out in everyday lives. In this episode, Andi shares insights from her new book, Braving Change: Release the Past, Welcome Growth, and Trust Where God is Leading You, and teaches us that Change is a powerful teacher, shaping and molding us more into the likeness of Christ as we let it do its work. Join Andi and I as we talk about:  Why Andi wrote her new book about change Grief with change Moving through change in a healthy way How to move forward after grieving Developing a game plan for recovery after change Favorite quotes:  17:47 - “There is a reason why the mourning process in the Bible was so wild and why they would put sackcloth and ashes and wail and mourn. They knew they needed to move it out of their bodies so that they could move forward in life.” 25:05 - “Even taking those little moments that seem impractical like, I don’t have time for this right now. Just let yourself cry for a few minutes and then move on.” 23:08 - “For any of us that are navigating anything, any new strategy for your future, your life, or your job, you need a game plan to recover from loss and to recover from the shifts and changes you just walked through.” 35:53 - “Just slow yourself down, stop grasping, and ask the Lord what do I need and God what do you want to give me? I know that if you ask the Lord, He will actually tell you, show you, and remind you in Scripture. But then don’t just hear him, do it!” Coaching this week:  How to Increase Your Odds for Success in Life (37:49)  We already know to stay close to Jesus and to not self sabotage.  But, today, I want to share the secret of how to increase your chances of good things to happen for you.   Links to great things we discussed:  Andi Andrew Website Andi Andrew  Instagram Braving Change Release the Past, Welcome Growth, and Trust Where God is Leading You Mumford and Sons Chris Stapleton Coat of Many Colors - Brandon Lake Slow Horses Reacher Prose Curl Big Hair Root Pump Plus Humidity Resistant Volumizing Spray Mousse Aveda be curly Curl Enhancer DevaCurl Sylvania Wifi LED Smart Light Bulb Alli on YouTube Called Creatives Alli’s Internship Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

The Truth About Starting and Scaling Your Business with Ryan Deiss

This week, I talk to Ryan Deiss about how to start and scale your business.  Ryan is a serial entrepreneur, author, and investor. He is the Founder and CEO of The Scalable Company, DigitalMarketer.com, and a Founding Partner at Scalable Equity.  Ryan shares insights from his new book, Get Scalable: The Operating System Your Business Needs to Boost Sales, Increase Profits, and Run Without You, about building a business that thrives without your constant input. Join Ryan and I as we talk about: Different ways we self-sabotage and why Adopting a position of service Three myths of starting a small business Trends in business - What’s working and what’s not working What is the Founder’s Curse, and how does it negatively affect our business First steps for scaling your business  Favorite quotes:  6:42 - “You can start a company. It can fail. That doesn’t make you a failure. You can just do another one.” 6:59 - “Don’t worry about your logo or all this other stuff, just go sell somebody something.” 7:35 - “The beautiful thing about business is you have the opportunity to self-sabotage at multiple points along the way.” 9:34 - “Adopt the position of service, and above all else, stop defining your business based on the products you sell or how you sell them. Define your business based on the people you serve.” 12:09 - “You don’t need a bunch of money to get started. You don’t really even need a product to get started, and you don’t need a brand to get started.” 25:36 - “We don’t start with our goals. We don’t start by documenting everything. We start by visualizing the value creation process then you can do all the other stuff.”   Coaching this week:  When to Make Your First Hire  (31:49) I share my easy process to help you know when to make that first hire.  Here’s a hint: it has to do with your time and your money and how much of each you currently have. Links to great things we discussed:  Ryan Deiss Website Digital Marketer Ryan Deiss Instagram Get Scalable: The Operating System Your Business Needs to Boost Sales, Increase Profits, and Run Without You Taylor Swift 30 Rock Seinfeld BritBox Full Focus Planner The Conqueror App Silo Alli on YouTube The Coach School Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to have successful relationships, the mistakes that destroy them, and communication without regrets with Donna Jones

Welcome To the show today! I am so glad you are here. We’re still in the “Your Work Matters Series” and we’re tackling a topic that is relevant to both work and our personal relationships. Today we are with my friend, Donna Jones, and we are sharing the truth about conflict and what common behaviors destroy both your personal and work relationships, Donna Jones is a national speaker, church planter, pastor's wife, author, writer, podcast host, and self-described "Bible-explainer." She hosts the weekly That's Just What I Needed podcast,  In this episode, Donna shares insights from her new book, Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life: A Biblical Guide for Communicating Thoughts, Feelings, and Opinions with Grace, Truth, and Zero Regret, and teaches us how to handle conflict in a God-honoring way and how to communicate our thoughts, feelings, and opinions with grace, truth, and zero regret. Join Donna and I as we talk about: Identifying our expectations and communicating them Common mistakes and behavior that destroy our relationships The truth about conflict How to have hard conversations in a healthy way Why listening is crucial to diffusing conflict The key to successful relationships   Favorite quotes:  “A lot of our conflicts can be preemptive if we communicate upfront.” (11:25) “When we are dealing with somebody’s difficult emotions, if we don’t just listen people escalate or they end always. When we are dealing with difficult things the best thing to do is just listen.” (25:09)  “So many of us think that conflict is bad because we have never learned to work through conflict in a way that makes it turn out good.” (32:04)   Coaching this week:  3 Ways to Make Your Home & Life More Organized (36:34) This week, I share three easy ways to reduce stress and increase organization in your home.  From finances to keeping clutter at a minimum to finding a home for everything, these strategies will help you feel more organized and that much happier.     Links to great things we discussed:  Donna Jones Website Donna Jones  Instagram Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life: A Biblical Guide for Communicating Thoughts, Feelings, and Opinions with Grace, Truth, and Zero Regret Prayer: Communing with God in Everything Bobbi Brown Long-Wear Cream Eyeshadow Stick Alli on YouTube The Coach School Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How Our Work and Our Obedience Can Lead Revival with Lisa Whittle

Today, we have my friend and Called Creatives co-founder Lisa Whittle back on the show. In this episode, we are talking about work, revival, and the different seasons God has us in our work life.  Lisa Whittle is a Bible teacher, speaker, author, and podcast host. She hosts several podcasts, including the popular Jesus Over Everything podcast. She is the founder of Ministry Strong and the co-founder of Called Creatives, a community for writers and speakers.  Lisa and I talk about: The changes the Lord put on Lisa’s heart for this year and revival Obeying God without having all the answers Wrestling with God and running from Him when He calls us to change Sometimes, we have to be willing to lose everything Learning to listen to the Lord  Disobedience can be doing or not doing something Lisa’s challenge to listeners Personal revival and wanting God with our whole heart   Favorite quotes:  05:55 - “When you find yourself not having a lot of time for the Lord, someone that you love more than anything, then that becomes a problem.” 12:58 - “When you do it God’s way, even though it’s hard, there will be something that you do not know that He knows better about that will work.” 20:22 - “I want you women to know when you have something in your spirit that feels right, you need to go for it.” 23:54 - “We will never want to spend time with God if it is just about a checklist.”   (28:48) Coaching this week: Optimizing Your Day   I talk about discovering my circadian rhythm, all the benefits of taking care of it, and how I realized just how powerful it can be.  You will be amazed at how productive you can be in such a short window of time.       (31:07) Recommendations I share about my health goals and what finally flipped the switch for me.  I tell you the one thing that keeps coming up in all my research and study of nutrition that will actually help you boost your immune system - fiber!   Links to great things we discussed:  Lisa Whittle Website Lisa Whittle Instagram I Want God: How to Love Him with Your Whole Heart and Revive Your Soul God Knows: When Your Worries and Whys Need More Than Temporary Relief The Jesus Over Everything Podcast Revlon ColorStay Full Cover Foundation GOBIOTIX Prebiotic Fiber Boost Alli on YouTube The Coach School Build Your Coaching Business Quick Start Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

What Women Get Wrong About Boundaries with Sasha Shillcutt

Continuing our series, “Your Work Matters”, today we are talking about boundaries at work, balance, and avoiding common pitfalls as women with our work. I’m with my good friend and client, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt.  Sasha is a physician, gender equity researcher, speaker, author, wife, mom of four amazing kids, and Founder and CEO of Brave Enough.  Sasha’s book, Brave Boundaries teaches us strategies for saying no, standing strong, and taking control of our time.   Join Sasha and I as we talk about: (04:12) What women get wrong about boundaries (05:04) Being afraid to have boundaries, especially in the workplace (06:14) Boundary backlash (09:03) Feeling confident in responses to extra work (13:46) Importance and impact of women in the workplace (16:12) Common types of self-sabotage (17:58) Moving forward from the fear of failure   Favorite quotes: (04:29)   “Boundaries are more about keeping the good in than they are about keeping the bad out.”    (04:46)  “The more we love people in our lives, want to serve people in our lives, and the more we want to show up as fully ourselves, the more boundaries we need.”    (06:47) )“I always remind myself I want to be a person who shows up and does the good work on my job description. If it's not on your job description, you aren't required to do it. Or if it's more than your job description, it's an opportunity for you to see if you want to do it or not. Then the boundaries, really, and the power lies within you because I always say, ‘You would much rather be a woman who's respected than a woman who's liked.’”   (17:54)  “...We often self-sabotage because we are so afraid of failing at things, things being hard, not getting it right, and making mistakes that we just take ourselves out of the game.”   Coaching this week:  (37:02) In our Coaching this week, we talk about delegation.  Delegation helps us stay focused on the work that only we can do - our zone of genius.  Most people are terrible at delegating.  Listen as I share three non-obvious tips for mastering delegation.      ( 38:29)  1 - Embrace the art of ‘good enough’. (39:40)  2 - Play to people’s strengths - not just what you want to get rid of. (40:58)  3 - Communication and trust are key.   Recommendation (43:23) My recommendation for the week is a light therapy light.  It’s a tiny change that will give you a big result in your life.     Links to great things we discussed:  Sasha Shillcutt Website Sasha Shillcutt Instagram Brave Boundaries Brave Enough Women’s Conference 2024 Zach Bryan Slow Horses The Crown The Big Leap Lano Hands Light Therapy Lamp Alli on YouTube The Coach School Build Your Coaching Business Quick Start   Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Busting Myths: Sacred vs. Secular with Jordan Raynor

Today, my friend Jordan Raynor and I are talking about the sacredness of our secular work. Join us as we dive into what we think about work in light of eternity.  Jordan Raynor is an author, podcast host, and executive chairman of Threshold 360.  Through his bestselling books, the Mere Christians podcast, and his weekly devotionals, Jordan has helped millions of Christians in every country on earth connect the gospel to their work.  In this episode, Jordan shares insights from his new book, The Sacredness of Secular Work, and reminds us that our daily jobs have significance for eternity even when we are not explicitly sharing the gospel.  Join Jordan and I as we talk about: Value of our daily secular work (05:59) Rehearsing for eternity (12:15) Half-truths for heaven (10:16) Most surprising discoveries from Jordan’s research (21:37) The anti-bucket list (23:00) Tips for how to make disciples (27:12) Using conversation launchers to have more intentional conversations (27:54) Favorite quotes:  05:59 - “The value of secular work depends upon the value of creation and the value of creation depends on what God's going to do with this creation in the end.” 10:16  - “The half-truths of heaven rob our joy and purpose in the present and hope for the future.”  12:15  - “The very same thing I am doing today is simply rehearsing something that is eternal and one day will be perfectly consummated with Christ on the new Earth.” 20:21 - “We mere Christians working as entrepreneurs and baristas in the pews inevitably feel guilty about working in the very places most likely to make disciples of Jesus Christ.” 27:27 - “When you understand that 100% of your time at work matters for eternity and not just the 1% of the time you spend walking somebody through the Romans Road, you are fully alive and fully alive people attract the lost like honey attracts bees.” Coaching this week: 42:12 We are wrapping up our Clarity Questions for 2023.  These questions are a bit more fun, but just as important as the last two weeks have been.  Pause and journal your answers to get the most out of this time. 1)  What are three words to describe the past year and why? 2)  What did I learn about myself this year? 3)  Were there any risks I avoided out of fear? 4)  If you could travel back to the beginning of the year, what advice or encouragement would you tell yourself? 5)  What would your 90-year-old self advise you to pursue right now? Recommendation 46:48 A skincare tip involving Aquaphor  Exclusive Bonus Content 49:15 YouTube viewers get exclusive bonus content, including this week’s movie review of Wonka and a bonus review of Paddington 2. Links to great things we discussed:   Jordan Raynor Website Jordan Raynor Instagram The Sacredness of Secular Work: 4 Ways Your Job Matters for Eternity Redeeming Your Time: 7 Biblical Principles for Being Purposeful, Present, and Wildly Productive Mere Christians Podcast Cruel Summer - Taylor Swift Evernote The Crown The West Wing King: A Life The Intentional Father Alli on YouTube The Coach School 3 Secrets to Become a Successful Coach and How to Get Clients Fast Aquaphor Wonka  Paddington 2  Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to Hear From God with Havilah Cunnington

Welcome to the show. You are in the right place today!  Today we are tackling something that we all care about deeply- hearing from God with my friend Havilah Cunnington. Hearing God’s voice is one of the greatest gifts we have been given. Often though we feel frustrated as if we are doing something wrong but really the key is that we need to discover the unique way God speaks to us.  Havilah Cunnington is a Bible teacher, author, small business owner, and itinerant speaker obsessed with helping people live the abundant life God has called them to live.  Havilah’s new book, Created to Hear God: 4 Unique and Proven Ways to Confidently Discern His Voice teaches that God speaks to each of us differently and the key to understanding the unique way He speaks to us is through our prophetic personality. Join Havilah and I as we talk about:  When Havilah and Alli first met How we know if we are hearing from God or just ourselves 3 core values for hearing from God The 4 prophetic personalities and understanding your prophetic personality   Favorite quotes: “There’s a recording of what you said to me that night…[I thought] my sweet little Southern Baptist heart doesn't understand this, but there is a more charismatic part of the church that gets it and feels comfortable hearing from God.  And it was later after that you told me, ‘We hear from God in different ways’.  And you went through all of that and it changed my life forever.” - Alli Worthington (Youtube 5:27) (Audio - 4:41)   “What I've learned about God is that he really doesn't care what our title is or what we theologically know. He knows us - our personhood.  He knows our hopes, our dreams. He knows our future. He knows what happened in the past. He knows the secrets of our hearts.” - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 9:16) (Audio - 8:13)   “God did not make a mistake when he made us, and he made us how we are.” - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 9:43) (Audio - 8:40)   “There are three voices that we consistently hear. We hear ourselves, we hear God, and we hear the enemy.” - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 16:08) (Audio - 13:12)    “The prophetic is simply how God shows up in the world.  Personality is how you show up in the world. I like to put them together, calling it prophetic personality.”  - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 18:30) (Audio - 15:28)   “We want to hear God’s voice because you can’t have a relationship without His voice.” - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 19:15) (Audio - 16:10)   “We don’t learn to hear God’s voice. We have been created to hear God’s voice.”  - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 20:24)  (Audio - 17:12)    “God is always speaking.”  - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 21:24) (Audio 18:10)   “Everyone deserves to hear God’s voice.”  - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 36:45)   Coaching this week:  5 Power Packed Clarity Questions (YouTube 38:00 ) (Audio 33:35) Links to great things we discussed:  Havilah Cunnington Website Havilah Cunnington Instagram Created to Hear God: 4 Unique and Proven Ways to Confidently Discern His Voice Havilah’s Podcast Alli on YouTube Apply for a FREE Coaching Call with Alli Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Is Social Media Destroying our mental health, how to make changes in life, and how to balance work and rest with Terra Mattson

Hey friend! We are back with my dear friend, Terra Mattson diving into why we do what we do, how to be even more emotionally healthy, and learning what we need to know to have a great year. In this part two episode, we talk a lot about social media. How do we as adults self-regulate and use social media well? Then we dive into how to guide our teenagers to set boundaries and use social media in a healthy way in this digital age.  Terra Mattson is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor who has practiced for nearly two decades and oversees a team of 20 clinicians.  Terra is the co-host of The Living Wholehearted Podcast with her husband Jeff. On the podcast, they candidly share relational wisdom from the home to the workplace.  Listen in on these audio chapters to hear:  What work and rest look like and how it is different for different people Using social media well Guiding our teenagers to use social media in a healthy way with boundaries Terra’s best advice for making changes in 2024 Favorite quotes: “Research shows that the quality of our relationships is what determines our long-term peace and our long-term happiness in life so invest in them. Relationships are the key to our emotional health.” “There is this wide variety of what God calls good and very good. Discovering who we are and living within each of our designs is part of the freedom.” “I am starting to see a little bit of a shift with social media. The only way to do it well is you have got to learn and know how to regulate your own emotions and self-care.” “At the end of the day, our greatest change and our greatest impact come from face-to-face, person-to-person relationships.” “Pick one small shift and be consistent with it throughout the whole year.” Coaching this week:  5 Questions to Ask About Your Relationships (27:46)  Links to great things we discussed:  Terra Mattson Website Terra Mattson Instagram The Living Wholehearted Podcast Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Alli on YouTube Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones All My Knotted-Up Life: A Memoir 12 Rules for Life Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

The shocking thing that keeps women stuck and the truth about toxic relationships with Terra Mattson

The shocking thing that keeps women stuck and the truth about toxic relationships  with Terra Mattson Hey Hey! It’s a new year and I’m so happy you are here. Today we are talking about familiarity and how easy it is for us to get stuck, self-sabotage, and fall into the familiar. Have you ever wondered why you keep going back to what is familiar? On the show, we discuss why we always go towards what is familiar and how to create habits to change and deepen our emotional maps.  Terra Mattson is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor who has practiced for nearly two decades and oversees a team of 20 clinicians.  Terra’s first book,  Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace, reminds us that the transformation of our relationships, communities, and culture begins with God’s work in our own lives. Her second book, Shrinking the Integrity Gap: Between What Leaders Preach and Live calls readers to discover how real leadership is a way of being and how it’s sustained over the long haul. Join Terra and I as we discuss:  How it is easy for us to fall into familiarity Creating habits to deepen our emotional maps Why familiarity can keep us stuck Being honest in toxic relationships Favorite quotes: “So whatever we do in life, we tend to be drawn towards what is familiar and what we grew up with intentionally or unintentionally.  Part of the challenge is learning what that is, deciding if that is really healthy, and how to slowly start to make some shifts.”   “No matter how healthy we are or how aware we are we still can be in a fallen world around toxic people.”   “Anything that is unfamiliar is uncomfortable for a time.”   “Part of learning and growing in maturity is being able to trust your own discernment.”   “We do not change by knowledge alone. The way God made it, we change by new experiences over and over and over.” Coaching this week:  5 Powerful Self-Reflection Questions (29:54)  Links to great things we discussed:  Terra Mattson Website Terra Mattson Instagram The Living Wholehearted Podcast Shrinking the Integrity Gap Alli on YouTube Little Things Studio Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  

How to Find Your Rhythm

Hey Friend! Merry Christmas! We are in our final week of sharing some of my favorite books.  This week we are diving into Chapter 7, Time: Finding Your Rhythm in a World of Overwhelm from my book, Breaking Busy: How to Find Peace and Purpose in a World of Crazy. No one is living their life where they are not busy, right? We all have something to do, whether it is a work project, raising our kids, etc.  Breaking Busy" gets into all the stuff in our lives, both the obvious and the hidden, that's just adding to our chaos and busyness. As we're gearing up for the new year, it's a great time to think about the year we want and how we want to feel. A big part of that? Looking at how we're spending our time. It's key for setting up a year that really feels good. Make sure to stick around to the end to hear some practical tips and advice on setting boundaries on our time and live with more intentionality as we head into 2024. Listen in on these audio chapters to hear:  How using a time diary changed my life and can change your life What is “ tyranny of the urgent” and how even Jesus set boundaries Choosing discomfort over resentment Practical tips on setting boundaries  What to take out and what to add in when it comes to time management. Favorite quotes: “The truth is when you are successful, spiritually healthy, and emotionally healthy it benefits everybody.” we want to feel this next year, examining how we spend our time is really the key.” “The truth is that whether you are the manager of a home, CEO of a company, or a busy entrepreneur, your ability to be successful is equal to your physical and mental health and your ability to manage your time and energy.” “Instead we should be doing more activities that actually make us happy and help us grow into who we are meant to be. But we’re never going to get to those activities if we don’t first set our goals and our priorities.” “Make sure you spend time doing things that get you closer to your goals.” “Finding your rhythm and managing your time is about being proactive and leaving room for things in life that are the most important. We have to intentionally manage our calendars so we can give priority to the most important things.” Links to great things we discussed:  Joyful Joyful We Adore Thee - Maverick City Music Breaking Busy: How to Find Peace and Purpose in a World of Crazy Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli