The Alli Worthington Show

How to Move Forward When We are Divided with Sarah + Beth of Pantsuit Politics

Is it possible to build a kinder society even while we’re stuck in conflict? Today’s episode couldn’t be more relevant than it is today.  Sarah and Beth of Pantsuit Politics  literally wrote a book to navigate this question! They join me to talk about their upcoming book, Now What? How to Move Forward When We’re Divided (About Basically Everything). Listen in as they share the one thing they want you to know — you are NOT alone if you find yourself tired of the anxiety, frustration, and fear that seem to be almost commonplace nowadays in your connections with other people, both online and in real life.  I don’t know about you, friend, but this feels like an important (and maybe long overdue) conversation for us to lean into given the cultural climate we find ourselves in right now. Sarah Stewert Holland and Beth Silvers host Pantsuit Politics podcast featured in the New York Times, the Atlantic, and named by Apple Podcasts as one of the Best Shows of 2021. They are also the authors of I Think You’re Wrong (But I’m Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversation (2019). Listen in to learn more about: How our families of origin inform our views on politics and the ways we connect with others + reasons why this particular chapter of the book was written and rewritten multiple times. Ways to have conversations about current events with the kids in our lives. Navigating our differences in friendships + how being in connection does not mean being in agreement. Favorite quotes: ~My faith informs less about my policy positions and more about the way I treat other people in the course of discussing politics. ~I hope that my faith builds in me a quiet but strong patience with other people and with myself. I hope that my faith makes room to change my mind when circumstances in  the world have changed because with politics we are often just talking about what we prioritize at the moment. ~Don’t think that because your political identity is not shared that  everything is broken. ~Something in what you absorbed from the people who raised you, the people who taught you what love means, the people who taught you what scarcity and fear mean - something connects to those bigger picture opinions and in our houses where we don’t have to make policy, we don’t have to all agree on who we have to vote for,  in our houses we can have much more deeper and interesting conversations with each other if we are willing to trace that thread back. ~Conflict can be a source of connection; it does not necessarily have to be a source of disconnection. Links to great things we discussed:  Pantsuit Politics - Beth and Sarah's Website Sarah's Instagram  Beth's instagram Somewhere in the vicinity of my heart - Song Missing Piece - Vance Joy song Atlanta - TV Series Succession - TV Series Lost City- Movie Doctor Strange - Movie Moon Knight   Everything Everywhere all at once - Movie One Touch- Blood glucose app Cladwell - App Massage Therapy gun Antrhopologie - App Peloton - App Cody Carnes - Firm Foundation song Physicians Formula - Loose Powder Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Have Great Relationships with Eric Barker

If I asked you to list all of the relationships in your life, we’d be here a while, wouldn’t we?! From friendships to romances and everything in between. We’re human, and God designed us to engage with others! That’s why I’m so excited to share this insightful conversation with Eric Barker, the Internet’s resident relationship expert. Of course, you know, I just had to ask him what made him decide to dive into the science of relationships in the first place, and his answer did not disappoint my friends!  Listen in as Eric talks to us about how he challenged some of the age-old relationship advice we’ve all received with science and skepticism. And how that experience led him to more fulfilling friendships, love, and community. This is so, so good. Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree,” which has sold over half a million copies and been translated into 19 languages. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” His new book, “Plays Well with Others,” was released earlier this month. Listen in to learn more about: What surprised Eric the most in his research for this book on relationships, [Hint: It has absolutely everything to do with friendships!] How to navigate negative and positive sentiment override and how they impact our relationships Productive ways to begin an argument or hard discussion that preserves both parties’ humanity in the conversation Favorite quotes: ~Friendships make us happier than any other relationship yet friendships don’t get the kind of respect or attention because friendship is completely voluntary.   ~ We are just not that good at reading others. Human beings in general default to trust and cooperation. We do want information but not all the information. In some ways it is our brain trying to protect us.  ~ Screaming matches only lead to divorce 40% of the time. The issue is that you scream when you care and when you stop screaming you stop caring. What precedes divorce is  living parallel lives where you don’t interact and don't yell and scream, because you don’t even care anymore. ~ The four things that are more predictive in divorce are all to do with how you talk, how you communicate. They are - Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. ~ Friendship Is fantastic, makes us happier than anything else but there’s a whole new level of synergy when friends become a group, a community.  Links to great things we discussed:  Memento Theme song - David Julyan Severance - TV Series  Ozark - TV series Amazon Kindle - App Bose Noise canceling headphones - Amazon Plays well with others - Book Barking up the wrong tree- Eric Barker's previous  book Eric Barker's website Doctor Strange - Movie Ray LaMontagne ft. Sierra Ferrell - I Was Born to Love You Bare Minerals - Well rested eye brightener Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Pursue Your Dreams in Community with Lisa Whittle

Hey Friend! Today I’m bringing back a special BONUS episode from the archives that I can’t wait to share with all the dreamers in my audience! I know you’ll love this one, especially if you’ve ever felt called to write, speak or maybe even start your own podcast!  My good friend and Called Creatives Co-Founder, Lisa Whittle, joins me on the mic today to give you an inside peek at what goes on at Called Creatives, our coaching community with hands-on training for women who want impact and influence. Lisa and I talk about following your dreams and how to push past the things that are holding you back. We discuss being called to write and speak and how to overcome the fear of rejection, failure, perfectionism, or thinking what you want to do is not what God has called you to do. Listen in to hear all about: The most common thing that holds women back who feel called to write. How overthinking, making assumptions, and compartmentalizing impacts God’s plan for us and how He wishes for us to partner with Him to fulfill His purposes on this Earth. What happens when you let go of the excuses that are holding you back from your full potential. We know that in order to achieve your dreams, you need someone to walk alongside you, telling you exactly what you need to know. Don’t worry if you’re not quite there yet; we’re going to give you the pieces to get there!  In Called Creatives, we help you reach your dreams with trainings and monthly LIVE coaching calls. You’ll love our special mastermind collectives where you will be connected with 3-5 women who know what you’re going through and can guide you down the right path. As a Called Creative member, every month, you’ll receive… LIVE, 90-minute interactive group coaching call with Alli and Lisa Writing training sessions that will equip you to become a better writer, establish your voice and get traction  Speaking training sessions designed to help you develop your unique message, sharpen your speaking skills and leverage speaking opportunities  Guest training sessions with industry leaders (publishers, agents, writers, speakers) Plus, you will also… The opportunity to join a FREE mastermind to provide deeper accountability, resources, input, and relationship within the community Have on-demand access to the online library of resources and trainings Expand your network of like-minded women who are pursuing their calling and cheering each other on Join specialized communities of fellow entrepreneurs, women in ministry, and podcasters inside the bigger Called Creatives community Connect directly with Lisa, Alli, and the Called Creatives team through the private online community platform Listing in the 2022 directory of members to help expand your network Head on over to Called Creatives to sign up today! xo, Alli 

How to Be a Difference Maker with Kyle Idelman

How does God want to use you to have an impact? If this question has ever crossed your mind, today’s episode is for you, friend! I am super excited to share this recent conversation I had with Kyle Idelman as he talks to us about the Jesus way of changing the world--loving people one at a time. Most of us don't want to spend our lives being time-wasters, space-takers, binge-watchers, or game-players. We want to be difference-makers. Kyle does an amazing job in giving us practical ways we can do that in our everyday lives.  Kyle Idleman is a bestselling author and the senior pastor at Southeast Christian Church in Louisville, Kentucky, one of the largest churches in America. He’s most widely known for his award-winning book, not a fan., which has sold more than 1.3 million copies and has sparked a movement among believers. Kyle has authored other books, including One at a Time, The End of Me, gods at war, Grace Is Greater, and Don’t Give Up. Kyle and his wife DesiRae have four children and live on a farm where he does no farming.  Listen in to learn more about: The profound impact and influence we can have in the lives of others and the best way to go about it.  How the use of the two words “Jesus saw” preceded some of the most amazing stories of transformed lives.. The bystander effect, how it keeps people from making an impact in the lives of others, and some practical steps to begin making a difference today.  Favorite quotes: ~ We tend to define influence or influencer to describe someone who has a certain amount of social media following. While that has impact and influence, the most profound influence we can have is almost always one person at a time. ~ When Jesus loves people one at a time it begins with His eyes, it begins with what HE saw. One of the things I really would challenge people about is to pray a simple prayer of “ Jesus help me to see people the way you see them,  give me eyes for the one”.  ~ One of the most important pieces is availability, is just saying    “OK ,I’ll do it, I am available” - That, saying Yes to God and being available to God is a big piece of this and is certainly  consistent in how God calls people throughout the Old and New Testament - He invites but we have to be available and have a willingness to do it.  ~ Jesus talked about if you want to be great then you become the servant of all, you make yourself less. Greatness is not defined by attention, it is defined by servanthood. In this episode I answered this question: What are some small changes I can make to feel happier everyday? (32:47) Links to great things we discussed:   It's always been you - Phil Wickam song The Office - TV Series Life 360 app Kyle Idleman Website One at a time -Kyle Idelman resources The Crown - TV Series King of my heart - Song  Worship for Fierce Faith - Spotify Playlist Loreal - Magic Perfecting base  Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Stay Present in the Here & Now with Jeanne Stevens

Hello and welcome! Today I am joined by the amazing speaker, leader, and writer, Jeanne Stevens. Let me just say that I waste no time at all in this episode by asking her all of my many questions about her trek up Mt. Kilimanjaro, You heard that right… Mt. Kilimanjaro! That’s so amazing! I asked the questions, and she delivered my friends… from hilarious to deeply personal thoughts; she shared all the details with us about what God was doing in her in the midst of this life-changing experience. And interestingly enough, Jeanne shares how she wonders if her book didn’t actually start to take shape during her experiences on Mt. Kilimanjaro.  Her soon-to-release book is called What’s Here Now?, and I just love the subtitle - How to stop rehashing the past, rehearsing the future, and start receiving the present. So good. I promise you don’t want to miss listening in to hear Jeanne teach us how to embrace the present moment and all that God has for us here, now. Jeanne Stevens is also the founding and co-lead pastor of Soul City Church in Chicago, one of America's fastest-growing urban churches. Prior to starting Soul City Church, Stevens was on the pastoral staff at Willow Creek Community Church and North Point Community Church. Jeanne's passion is to help people wake up to their purpose as they pursue a life of wholehearted freedom. She lives in Chicago with her husband, Jarrett, and their two children. What’s Here Now will be available nationwide on May 17, 2022.  Listen in to learn more about: Valuable questions to ask ourselves as a way to come into our “now” moments often throughout the day,  How the present is where God lives, and it is where God invites us to live with Him. The differences between our automatic self and our authentic self.  Favorite quotes: ~ When things don’t go the way you believe they should go, it is packed with all the very best learning.  ~ It was such a great inner teacher for me to not make it to the top and to unwind all of what that meant in my life. ~We are so inclined to think about what happened, to go to the ‘what was, the what ifs and all I had was what IS’ ,this present moment - here on the mountain. And the thing to do each day was to put one foot in front of the other and to be present with that. ~I was doing the work of God but the work of God was deteriorating in me. ~What I began to realize and recognize in my own life  was that the places  where I was most hanging out were in the past and in my future. I was all about rehashing things that already happened or rehearsing things that had not yet happened and I wasn't allowing myself to be present to this NOW moment.  ~I need to locate myself to this location and check into this present moment. In this episode I answered this question: How can I calm myself down when I am feeling stressed so often? (44:17) Links to great things we discussed:  Mindjogger - App Jeanne Stevens - Website Jeanne Stevens - Instagram  Holy Spirit Come Song - Patrick Mayberry Inventing Anna - TV Series The Dropout - TV Series  I guess I haven't learnt that yet - Shauna Niequist Book  Amazon - Ziploc bag organizer Amazon - Milk Frother Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Lazy Genius Your Kitchen with Kendra Adachi

Today,  the Lazy Genius is moving us into the kitchen. Yep, you heard that right, friends! The Lazy Genius (and self-proclaimed professional permission giver) Kendra Adachi joins me on the show today to share how when she couldn’t find a book like The Lazy Genius Kitchen for herself over the years, she decided to write it!  Listen in as Kendra tells us how she wants this book to help the cookbooks you already have, the items in your kitchen, your rhythms, basically all the kitchen-related things in your life, ALL OF IT, to work better for you. Kendra’s book is described not as a cookbook but as a lifeline. Trust me when I say you absolutely don’t want to miss out on this one!  Kendra Adachi went to college to become a high school English teacher but instead became the Lazy Genius, passionately and candidly sharing how to stop doing it all for the sake of doing what matters.  Listen in to learn more about: The 7 things Kendra does every Sunday to prep for her week + the noise of extra in our kitchens (well, our lives, actually). How to tell if a recipe is any good. Fun side note here: it has to do with salt, heat, and fat… you’re welcome for that info! Asking the magic question… What can I do now to make something easier later?  Favorite quotes: 1. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. 2. Take away the things that are in the way of what matters to you. It is a great thing when we remove the noise and focus of what does matter 3. You have permission to love something even if you think other people will think it’s silly. 4. Ask yourself the magic question: What can I do now to make my life easier later? 5. We all have different priorities and we need to not apologize for them. When we learn to accept that, we’ll all be a lot happier. In this episode I answered this question: I am a new entrepreneur and need a mentor. How do I find one? (58:26) Links to great things we discussed:  The Lazy Genius Collective The Lazy Genius Kitchen Jacob Collier - Fix You Cover We Don’t Talk About Bruno Stay Close Harlan Coben Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson Owala Water Bottle IMDB App Fantastic Beasts: The Secrets of Dumbledore The Best is Yet to Come MAC: Satin Taupe Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli www.alliworthington.com/kendraadachi2/

How to Stop Performing for Your Worth with Mary Marantz

You cannot achieve your way into worth. Full stop. Oh, friends, did you feel the weight of that statement along with me. Be sure to listen in today as Mary and I discuss her soon-to-release (and absolutely beautiful, I might add) devotional, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots. This is a message that I believe will resonate with so many women. The woman who feels like she must always be "on." The one who is always performing. You know her. Maybe you are her. Mary shares some practical ways to move from achieving, striving, and performing for our worth to the grace, freedom, and purpose that come from knowing our identities and callings are determined by God. Whether you lean toward what Mary describes as the Performer, the Contortionist, the Tight-Rope Walker, the Masquerader, the Illusionist, or all of the above, this is a conversation you won’t want to miss out on! Mary Marantz is a speaker, an entrepreneur, plus the bestselling author of Dirt and her soon-to-release book, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots. She is also the podcast host of The Mary Marantz Show. She lives in an 1880s fixer-upper by the sea in New Haven, Connecticut, with her husband Justin and their two very fluffy golden retrievers, Goodspeed & Atticus. Listen in to learn more about: Signs that you may have an achievement orientation/mentality. How we must release other people’s dreams and expectations of us. The filter we walk through life with and how that can affect everything. Favorite quotes: For those of us who did not grow up with a lot, a self-preservationist switch got flipped. It can appear to the outside world as selfish or self-absorption, but we just feel like we are trying to survive. So many of us are walking around -we are ears to dreams that we have never dreamed, hopes that we have never hoped , a crystal plated version of the good life that someone else has held on our behalf. I started treating God like a Pez dispenser, keeping the sugary sweets and the highs of getting everything I ever wanted of more of success coming. Never mind the anemic in my faith, in the process. Never mind that what I actually needed besides a filling is an extraction of all the I have tried to fill my life with just so the raw nerve endings go quiet for a while - It never works.  Have you ever reached a point where you are starting to get tired of all of this achieving and  running and acquiring and accumulating? Then none of the other stuff is going to work.  Links to great things we discussed:  Mary Marantz- Website Golden Girls - TV show Yellow Stone - TV Show American Underdog - Movie Shauna Niequist Book  - I guess I haven't learnt that yet  Peloton app Hatch app Glossier Cosmetics What's your achiever type - Quiz Rest on us song - Maverick City  Tarte - Amazonian clay blush Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli https://alliworthington.com/marymarantz/

How to Make Smart Decisions with Andy Stanley

Today’s episode is a special one! Actually, I get so many questions about making great decisions during our coaching time, I knew it was time to share one of my favorite episodes. I’m still absolutely giddy that I got to talk to him! Andy tells us about his most recent book, Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets, and even gives us a peek into the five game-changing questions he believes we should ask ourselves every time we need to make a decision. He also gives us a solid framework for making wise decisions and some guardrails for how to avoid the bad ones. I hope it’s helpful to hear this one again as we consider how every decision we make matters as we keep moving forward in 2022! Andy Stanley is a pastor, author, and podcaster who founded Atlanta-based North Point Ministries (NPM) in 1995. Today, NPM consists of eight churches in the Atlanta area and a network of 180 churches around the globe that collectively serve over 200,000 people weekly. As host of Your Move with Andy Stanley and author of more than 20 books, he is considered one of the most influential pastors in America. Andy and his wife, Sandra, have three grown children and live near Atlanta. Listen in to learn more about: The power of asking the right questions when it comes to a decision. How decision-making can shape your life story in a beautiful way. How to develop strength and maturity as a decision-maker. Favorite quotes: We all ask questions. If we are willing to embrace some more penetrating questions. And get in the habit of asking those every time we make even a medium sized decision, we're just going to make better decisions. The proof that there's a relationship between good decisions and good questions is this: when people think about their worst decision, whether it's a financial decision, business decision, or a relationship decision. On the other side of a bad decision, we always think or even say: I should have asked more questions. Which is true. Because if we ask the right questions on the front end, we generally have fewer regrets on the back end. To lead ourselves well we have to be honest with ourselves. The decisions you're making right now are part of the story that you're going to tell. So write a good story. Our greatest regrets are the regrets where we stepped over the moral line, the ethical line, the legal line. Our greatest regrets are always preceded by a series of unwise decisions. When we live within the realm of wisdom, we stay away from the edge of disaster. In this episode I answered this question: Could you give me one tip that would make me a better communicator? (37:46)    What's the difference between religion and a relationship with Jesus? (39:14)   How do you know how much to charge for your services? (44:49) Links to great things we discussed:  Andy Stanley Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets The Trial of the Chicago 7 Holy, Holy, Holy Standing Strong Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli 

How to Not Be Defined By Our Pain with Shauna Niequist

Are you reeling from the extraordinary changes we’ve experienced over the past two years in one way or another? (My hand is raised over here for sure!) Today, the amazing  Shauna Niequist joins me to discuss her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet, and share her story of finding herself after a tough season. I don’t know about you, friend, but this book and her message feels relevant to what’s going on around me right now. I hope you find value in it, too.  Shauna and I take a deep dive into how pain can tenderize us, make us demand less of the world, and show us the good even in the face of what has been lost. We also talk about how seasons of significant loss can act as catalysts to significant transformation in our lives. Our pain doesn’t define us; what we do with it does. You truly don’t want to miss this one, my friend! Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and her soon-to-release book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their sons, Henry and Mac.   Listen in to learn more about: The concept of finding your next self. The importance of taking care of ourselves, even a willingness to fight for our health. Ways to live lightly and be a person who is easily delighted. Favorite quotes: If you feel overwhelmed by the mess that your life has become, don't try to go through that alone. We don't change when we are feeding ourselves a steady diet of shame and abuse. We change when we anchor ourselves in love and self-esteem - That’s what gives us the courage to make changes. I want to walk through life not dragging around these resentments, grudges and complaints. I want to live with a sense of freedom, with a lot of space inside myself,  inside my heart for possibility for the present and the future instead of feeling like I am dragging my past behind me like an anchor. I want to maintain the capacity to be easily delighted. I want to be a person for whom joy comes easily and frustration is harder to come by. Pain can tenderize you and can make you demand less of the world and can show you what’s good even in the face of what’s been lost. Great things we discussed:  Shauna Niequist - Website Shauna Niequist - Instagram Soy Yo - Song  The Crown - TV Series  Below Deck - TV Series  Tick Tick Boom - Movie  Wordle Bag All Store jeen-yuhs - Kanye Documentary This is the Kingdom - Song  Ipsy Website Tarte - Amazonian Clay Bronzer Join the Confident Motherhood Community here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/shaunaniequist/

How to Live a Meaningful Life with Joshua Becker

Welcome friend! Have you ever found yourself wanting to spend hours talking to someone who is not only interesting but also interested in what you have to say? Allow me to introduce you to my friend Joshua Becker. Joshua is here to talk to us about living a meaningful life with no regrets. He shares how we can move past the things holding us back and how we don’t feel as much regret if we are in service to others. You know that I just love when research backs up what we’ve known for thousands of years.  Joshua Becker is a prolific author, father of two, and founded a nonprofit organization for orphans called The Hope Effect. He is also the founder and editor of Becoming Minimalist, a website dedicated to intentional living for the last 13 years. (He’s been blogging on the internet almost as long as I have!).  Listen in to learn more about:  Joshua’s journey from being a youth pastor in Vermont to being a full-time blogger and embracing his minimalist journey.  What minimalism is and how others can push back against it. How to overcome past mistakes that may make you feel regretful. Practical steps for those who choose to become more minimalist. Favorite quotes: Possessions were not the only distraction that kept me from pursuing my best and most meaningful, fruitful life.  Why would I want to chase more money if I don’t need more money to live on? Admit the mistakes, notice them and do your best to learn from them. We can redeem our past mistakes if we allow them to recreate who we are. Minimalism, to me,  has always been removing the things I don't need, so I can focus on pursuits that are more important in the short run and long run.  Great things we discussed:  Fitbod app The Greatest Salesman in the World - Book The Office deep dive podcast The Office - TV series Elevation worship - Iheart radio Costco - Stroopwafels Joshua Becker website  Inventing Anna - Netflix series The Crown - TV series Ray LaMontagne - It's always been you If my marriage had a soundtrack  - Spotify Playlist Confident Motherhood Community Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli www.alliworthington.com/joshuabecker/