The Alli Worthington Show

Enneagram Deep Dive with Marilyn Vancil

Hello Friends!   If you’ve been on the Internet at any point in the past couple of years, you’ve likely encountered the Enneagram. Or at least the watercolor, hand-lettered Instagram form of it.  Today, we’re pushing the memes aside (no matter how funny or true they may be!) and diving into Enneagram numbers, arrows and wings with the delightful Marilyn Vancil.  Marilyn is an author, Certified Enneagram Professional and spiritual director who uses the Enneagram to help others develop self-awareness so they can live out the unique life experience God created for them.  In her new book, Self to Lose, Self to Find: Using the Enneagram to Uncover Your True, God-Gifted Self, Marilyn explores the beloved, ancient personality typing system as a means to uncover greater freedom in one’s spiritual, emotional and relational life. We start out our conversation with a short refresher on the nine types of the Enneagram along with God’s gifts for each type. If you’re well-versed in the basics, you may want to skip ahead to about 29 minutes in. But if you’re anything like me, you’ll be interested in everything Marilyn has to say about the Enneagram. During our deep dive, Marilyn and I talk about:   1. The difference between the adaptive self and the authentic self and how to recognize them 2. What causes our disagreements with others more often than not 3. How our Enneagram wings create balance and nuance And stick around for our coaching segment, where I reveal how to determine if your business idea will work or not. Plus, I have a special offer just for this week! P.S. Have you finished your Christmas shopping yet? If not, my team and I have your back! My FREE Christmas Gift Guide is over 40 pages of gift ideas for everyone on your list. Grab your copy at: www.alliworthington.com/christmas    Favorite quotes: The Enneagram helps give more definition, more understanding of what your particular obstacles are. It’s just a tool but it’s really helpful in discerning where it is we’re stuck. When we’re trying to determine our type it's good to look at what you are like under stress. Some people say you only have one wing. I think we have two and one is stronger than the other at times but we access both of them. They both influence you. We have our arrows. We have our wings. We have our dominant type. It’s really important to say this is the pattern. These are just patterns, these are not definitions. This is describing a pattern of being. It’s really important not to peg yourself or others.   In this episode I answer this question: I want to start a side business to bring in income for the family but I don’t know if I have the personality for it. How do I know if I can make it work? (50:47)   Great things we discussed:  1. Marilyn Vancil 2. Self to Lose Self to Find 3. This Is Us 4. The Liturgy of The Ordinary 5. Passion To Profit6. The Polar Express7. Tribl8. Weightless 9. Standing Strong   Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/marilynvancil

Lysa Terkeurst on forgiving what you can’t forget

The holiday season is upon us! And while it brings us moments of reconnection, Christmas magic, and a whole lot of festive cheer, it can sometimes reveal deep pockets of pain that we haven’t fully addressed yet.   If you know all too well what I’m talking about, today’s episode is for you. I’m honored to share my conversation with author and speaker Lysa TerKeurst, but you may know her as the President of Proverbs 31 Ministries. She shares about her journey with forgiveness, specifically while dealing with a betrayal in her own home, and how she used it to find true healing.   In Lysa’s new book, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget, she teaches us new ways to work through pain and move on with joy in our hearts. She brings a new level of honesty and vulnerability that helped me find a new perspective on this essential skill we all practice in our day-to-day lives.    Things we covered in this shorter-than-usual episode:  1. The shocking blessing of bitterness 2. The best time for forgiveness (the answer will surprise you!) 3. The false narrative we tell ourselves when we experience a trigger   After our conversation, stick around for our coaching time where I share listener-submitted questions about life, faith, and business!   And while you’re here, have you downloaded my FREE Christmas Gift Guide yet? My team and I spent weeks putting together this extensive guide to all things gifts, and I just know you’ll find the perfect item for everyone on your list. Grab your copy at alliworthington.com/christmas   One more thing, this is the last week to join Called Creatives at the introductory price of $19! After this week, the price jumps up to $29 (but if you join now, you’ll lock in the intro rate forever and ever amen).    Favorite quotes: 1. I always thought forgiveness was an unfair gift we have to give to the person who hurt us, and what I discovered is forgiveness is more about God giving the gift of healing to our hearts. 2. Forgiveness is both a decision and a process. 3. The blessing of bitterness is it actually shows us what a tender beautiful heart we have because bitterness doesn't often visit people with cold hearted hearts. Bitterness often comes to people who have loved deep so they got hurt really deep. 4. Forgiveness is supposed to be that step toward healing that we take early on, so that our heart can embrace, not just the reality of the situation, but the potential beauty of the life lessons we can learn along the way.   5. Boundaries aren't meant to shove another person away, but they are meant to help hold me together, so I can fully forgive someone.   In this episode I answer these questions: 1. What do I need to do to take care of my skin as I near my 40s? (30:17)   2. What should I do if I don't agree with all my church’s teachings? (36:30) 3. How do I know what to invest in my business? (40:36)   Great things we discussed:  1. Lysa Turkerust 2. Forgiving What You Can’t Forget 3. The Forgiveness Journal 4. Epionce 5. Bye Bye Foundation  6. Bare Minerals 7. The Crown 8. Take Courage  9. The 2020 Christmas Gift Guide    Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/lysaterkeurst2

Healthy relationships with sugar and Social Media with Wendy Speake

Hey Friends! Joining me on the show today is author Wendy Speake, who is passionate about pointing others to Christ through the power of storytelling. She’s written many wonderful books on how we can help take back our lives from things that have power over us. So it’s safe to say we covered a lot of ground in our conversation, including how setting healthy boundaries with both sugar and social media can lead us to a deeper connection with God and how the stress of 2020 has impacted mothers especially. Plus, I’m sharing my best advice for handling overwhelm this season and the seemingly endless stream of information and opinions we’ve been bombarded with over the past few months.   Things we discussed:  1. How staying connected online can keep us distant from the ones who matter most   2. How triggering situations affect relationships and lines of communication between moms and their kids   3. How social media can act as a crutch to ignore our relationship with God   Favorite quotes: 1. God never asked us for a sugar sacrifice. He asked us for a living sacrifice. So we lay down sugar in order to feast on Him like we’re fasting but the whole goal is feasting. We’re taking a break from what we usually shove in our mouths, in our lives to say I want to consume you Lord. 2. The fast is so much more than a detox because we are lifting our eyes to see Christ, to see our people and then to see others.   3. If your device is your vice, if your device is divisive. It is separating you from God and others in real life. Take those details to the Lord.   4. It’s possible that when we turn to our pantries and our freezers to get us through our stress, that is actually causing us more stress. In this episode I answer this question: How do you not let information overwhelm you? (49:17)   Great things we discussed:  1. Wendy Speake (Website and Facebook)2. 40 Day Social Media Fast  3. Behold Him 4. Fresh Prince of Bel-Air5. The God Dare 6. Muscle milk chocolate powder  7. Mrs. Doubtfire 8. First Love  9. The 2020 Christmas Gift Guide  10. Standing Strong    Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/wendyspeake

How to Break Busy for the Holidays

The holiday season is fast approaching, friends! But first, let’s take a moment to imagine what the holidays could look like if things were different. What if you started the season with less stress and more joy? What would it feel like if you ditched the Christmas chaos once and for all?  I’m sharing a chapter from my book, Breaking Busy, on today’s episode to give you a practical look at how you can do just that. Dive into Chapter 6 with me as we talk all about traditions, finding a way that works for us in a world of expectations, and how we can break being busy in the middle of what feels like the busiest time of year.  Plus, I’m sharing all the details about something my team’s been working hard on in the background for months now, The 2020 Christmas Gift Guide. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  www.AlliWorthington.com/Christmas

The magic of awe and wonder with Harris III

Have you lost your childlike imagination? Do you still find wonder in the world or are you more cynical than ever? My guest today is the incredible illusionist, storyteller, and author Harris III! Harris and I have a fascinating conversation today about the concept of wonder and why awe is vital for thriving in life. Harris shares how to reawaken child-like wonder, how awe impacts our physical and mental health in a powerful way, and why it's important to find magic in the mundane.   We also chat about: -How gratitude can reawaken the magic in our life -The "special" lie and why we need to debunk it -And how to find our greatest purpose out of our deepest pain   Favorite quotes: What I understand of wonder is that it's contagious. Their wonder and response to that first magic trick reawakened my wonder, turned on the wonder switch and gave me permission to start dreaming of this whole new possible life   Wonder is this really essential process. It’s this state that we can get back to that gives us permission to believe.   The presence of awe and wonder can boost the production of cytokines in your body. It can boost your immune system, it can decrease stress.   There’s magic in the mundane. There’s beauty right in front of our faces, we just can’t see it.   You can live an extraordinary life, just like anyone else you admire, if you understand the fact that we are all special. Contained within us all is this magic and the ability to do extraordinary things.   In this episode I answer these questions: 1. Do you ever feel extra pressure to not feel busy or worried or unhappy because you write books on how to overcome it? How do you balance what you teach? (48:51)   2. How can I help my kids develop their own faith and not just depend on my faith? (51:48)   3. How do you know when it's the right time to quit your job and go all in on running your own business? (55:41)   Great things we discussed:   1. www.harrisiii.com 2. The Wonder Switch  3. STORY Gatherings 4. Forrest Gump Soundtrack 5. Atomic Habits 6. Ecamm 7. Honest Thief 8. Highest Praise 9. Standing Strong   Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)   xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/harris-iii

Andy Stanley on Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets

Today I'm so excited to announce that my DREAM GUEST is joining us. Some women may want Beyonce on their show- but move over Queen B- because this gal wants Andy Stanley on her podcast! You may know Andy from his book, podcasts, and as the pastor of Northpoint Church in Georgia. His work has shaped my life, ministry, and walk with God in a profound way. And even though this is my first time to interview Andy, I claim that he's been on my "personal board of directors" for years! In this episode- Andy is going to share about his new book Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets. We chat about what it looks like to make wise decisions and the massive impact it can have on your life and leadership in the long run. He gives us a framework for how to make wise decisions and some guardrails for how to avoid the bad ones.   He also shares: -The power of asking the right questions when it comes to a decision -How decision-making can shape your life story in a beautiful way -How to develop strength and maturity as a decision maker   Favorite quotes: We all ask questions. If we are willing to embrace some more penetrating questions. And get in the habit of asking those every time we make even a medium sized decision, we're just going to make better decisions. The proof that there's a relationship between good decisions and good questions is this: when people think about their worst decision, whether it's a financial decision, business decision, or a relationship decision. On the other side of a bad decision, we always think or even say: I should have asked more questions. Which is true. Because if we ask the right questions on the front end, we generally have fewer regrets on the back end.   To lead ourselves well we have to be honest with ourselves.    The decisions you're making right now are part of the story that you're going to tell. So write a good story.   Our greatest regrets are the regrets where we stepped over the moral line, the ethical line, the legal line. Our greatest regrets are always preceded by a series of unwise decisions.   When we live within the realm of wisdom, we stay away from the edge of disaster.   In this episode I answer these questions: Could you give me one tip that would make me a better communicator? (37:46)  What's the difference between religion and a relationship with Jesus? (39:14) How do you know how much to charge for your services? (44:49)   Great things we discussed:  1. Andy Stanley2. Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets 3.The Trial of the Chicago 7 4. Holy, Holy, Holy 5. Standing Strong  Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :)   xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/andy-stanley/

How knowing yourself well protects you and your family with Rachel Cruze

Anyone ready to talk about one of the subjects you are never supposed to talk about?!? Don't worry- it's not politics. Today, we are diving into MONEY with the one and only Rachel Cruze. I love this episode because Rachel is both fun and practical- and her interesting perspective on how your personality affects your spending is truly a game changer. We dive into so many topics in her new book Know Yourself, Know Your Money. She shares why it's important to know how your emotions impact your interactions with money, how your childhood created "money classrooms” whether you recognized it or not, and how to talk to your own kids about financial literacy.   We also chat about: How to find contentment so we don't make money an idol The 7 different money personalities and the 6 money fears (and why fear is a terrible financial advisor) How to equip yourself with the self-awareness you need to meet your financial goals   Favorite quotes: Rule number one: you can change your money situation. You can start making choices on the practical side to get yourself in control.    A lot of these fears drive our money decisions and what motivates us with money. So pinpointing it for yourself is really important. And if you're married, for your spouse. What is their thing that they’re fearful of when it comes to money? Know that. Because once you identify it you can talk about it.   The first thing you have to do in order to save is have a plan.  I think by naming and understanding how you grew up, you realize the habits you formed.    In this episode I answer these questions: 1. What is your parenting advice when it comes to disciplining your kids?   (43:01) 2. Is God really listening when I talk to him? (46:11) 3. An entrepreneur once said that to be successful, the business always has to come first and that I can’t really have a life or friends outside of it. Is that really what running a business is like? (48:41)   Great things we discussed:  1. Rachel Cruze  2. Know Yourself, Know Your Money 3. Goodness of God Bethel  4. Real Housewives 5. Discerning The Voice of God 6. Voice of the Heart 7. The Turn of the Key 8. The Guest List  9. Electric Fly Swatter   10. Coco 11. Promises  12. Standing Strong   Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli    www.alliworthington.com/rachel-cruze

Lisa Bevere on mentors, mom guilt, and what she would say to her younger self

The one and only Lisa Bevere.  Lisa brings the fire and preaches the "bark off a tree" as I say in this episode, as she shares about her new book Godmothers. Lisa shares what a Godmother really is (spoiler alert: it's not a magical fairy or mafia mother figure!) and why we all need spiritually mature women intentionally speaking into our lives.  We also tackle mom guilt, how to start actually enjoying our lives instead of performing for others, and why it takes courage for older women to approach mentoring relationships.   We also talk about: -How to nurture your dream in the early stages -The amazing advice another mom gave her early on  -Why women need each other more than ever in 2020   Favorite quotes: A godmother is a mother who is always going to point you towards godliness. This means she’s going to ask you the questions you don’t want to answer and tell you the things you don’t necessarily want to hear.    A godmother is someone who will be by your side, not necessarily on it because you could be wrong. But she will be by your side pointing you to growth and blessing what is in your life from your own hard lessons.    I have the right to write my life. I have the right to move forward with strength just like everybody else does. God is inviting us to write our lives well. Which means we need to do it with intent and an awareness that we have a story behind us and a story in front of us.   You are not allowed to let the enemy’s narrative be the last page of your story.    Sometimes God says step outside so that something inside of you can be enlarged. We need to be people who understand that our God turned hopelessness into a victory.   Links to great things we discussed:  1. Lisa Bevere Instagram2. Godmothers 3. Nothing Else on Spotify4. Radioactive 5. The Idiot6. Let The Light In  7. Standing Strong   Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli  www.alliworthington.com/lisa-bevere-3

Jamie Ivey on finding contentment where you are

If you love podcasts, you'll LOVE our guest this week- the podcasting queen, Jamie Ivey! Jamie and I released our new books the same week and we are so passionate about the messages God gave us for 2020.  I loved this conversation with my friend about her new book You Be You! We chat about how to find your unique voice, find joy and contentment in the life right before you, and why we don't need to shy away from success- but rather redefine it. We also chat about: Where she got the courage to try a radio competition 10 years ago, that changed everything How to give up the idea that your life needs to look like others to be fulfilling The amazing, applicable to all advice she'd give her 20-year-old self  Favorite quotes: When I’m faithful to do what God has asked me to do, that faithfulness will actually equal success. Great things we discussed:  1. jamieivey.com2. You Be You  3. Maverick City Music  4. Blackish5. The Great Alone 6. White Awake  7. Manime 8. The Nightingale   9. Thrive Eye Brightener  10. Standing Strong Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli www.alliworthington.com/jamie-ivey

Remember Who You Are from Standing Strong Chapter 3

Standing Strong is here! And I'm so grateful you can finally have this message in your hands and hearts.   Today, as a gift to you- I'm reading Chapter 3 on the podcast!   In this chapter, we remember our forgotten identities as women and the lies that attack them. We also explore how God designed women to create, complement, and complete. And, we'll walk together to rediscover our strength and why we ALL are truly Wonder Women.   This chapter is for you if: -You aren't sure if you have the strength it takes to keep going or walk into a new season -Struggling to pinpoint your purpose and mission as a woman -and you need to remember the source of your strength   xo, Alli    www.alliworthington.com/standingstrong