The Alli Worthington Show

How to Make Big Decisions with Emily P. Freeman

Welcome to the show!  If you're struggling with big decisions, you're in the right place. Today, I'm thrilled to have my long-time friend, Emily P. Freeman.  She's a bestselling author and creator of The Next Right Thing podcast, and her wisdom on decision-making is incredible. Today, we are tackling how to make big decisions in life, and I think you’ll love it!  Emily P. Freeman is a bestselling author of five books. As a spiritual director, workshop leader, and host of The Next Right Thing podcast, her most important work is to help create soul space and offer spiritual companionship and discernment for anyone struggling with decision fatigue.  Emily's new book, How to Walk Into a Room, is about knowing when to stick with a situation and when it's time to move on. It's a guide for living a life where you thrive, not just get by. Let's dive in! Join Emily and I as we talk about: (11:50 audio )The difference between readiness and timeliness, finding clarity for when it’s time to go, but you don’t feel ready (13:00 audio) Questions to ask when discerning if it is time to stay or go (17:05 audio) Using the point-and-call system for clarity (22:49 audio) Discerning the difference between true peace and discomfort avoidance (27:00 audio) Walking out of a room and into something new (31:50) Being your own friend Favorite quotes:  (8:04)  - “There are a lot of us who have found ourselves in a lot of rooms. Many of those rooms we have prayed for, longed for, and fought really hard to get into. And then something shifts. Maybe something shifts in the room or something shifts in us. It doesn’t have to mean something went wrong. It just means something has changed or is changing.” (12:10) - “A lot of the tension we have when it comes to deciding to leave or stay it’s because readiness and timeliness don’t line up. So we have to make decisions the best we can with the information we currently have with where we are right now about what is my next right thing here.” (15:57) - “Just because it is not the right room for me anymore doesn’t mean I chose wrong in the first place and doesn’t mean I made a big mistake. It just means I am growing, and changing, and life is different now.” (21:59)  - “When you leave a room you don’t walk into nothing. Something new is always waiting. And you don’t walk alone, God always goes with you.” (22:22)  - “It can be so scary to change your mind, to change your place, or change your way of being in a space but it is a healthy human rhythm.” Coaching this week: Taking Risks (34:06) This week, I urge you to take action on your dreams and goals because staying stagnant is the true risk in life. Don't be afraid of failure; use it as a stepping stone and keep pushing forward to live a full and vibrant life. Links to great things we discussed:  Emily P. Freeman Website Emily P. Freeman  Instagram How to Walk Into a Room: The Art of Knowing When to Stay and When to Walk Away Light On - Maggie Rogers Ugly Betty Barbie Superstore 60-Second Eye Effects Lectio 365 The Quiet Collection Argylle Laura Geller Eyeshadow Alli on YouTube Called Creatives Alli’s Internship Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How Your Boundaries Can Lead to Blessings with Sara Hagerty

Welcome to the show today! I am so happy you are here. We are in our “Living Well” series talking about all aspects of living well, and staying emotionally and spiritually healthy, no matter what craziness the world serves up.  Today Sarah Hagerty is joining us to talk about the unexpected gift of limitations. Now you know me, Enneagram seven, more is always better, but I feel this topic, the gift of our limitations so deeply because it's how God develops us so often and how he points us to where he wants us to focus in life. Sarah is absolutely brilliant and you are going to love her. Sara Hagerty is a bestselling author and Jesus follower. She has written four books, including her most recent release, The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries As a writer, speaker, and mother of seven, Sara Hagerty knows what limitations feel like. Yet she has also seen how the boundaries of our life circumstances can bring about growth and satisfaction we'd never experience otherwise. Join Sara and I as we talk about: How our limitations can be blessings Identifying and grieving our limitations How to surrender to our limitations in a healthy way The effects of social media on our emotional health How to live in the boundaries God has given us in a healthy way Favorite quotes:  7:10: “Comparison puts us constantly noticing our limitations against someone else who doesn’t have them.”   8:39: “There are all different flavors that women experience, but the reality is every day we wake up to our limitations.” 11:03: “We often don’t actually name our limitations, so there is an ache underneath our limits that needs to be grieved with God. But we live at such a surface level where we don’t name our limits, so we can’t grieve them. “ 14:11: “There is something significant about noticing ourselves because then we can actually have something we can bring to God.”  23:29: “The “sigh of life” is surrender and a sigh that comes after the grief of our limitations.” Coaching this week:  How to Deal with Toxic People (29:21 Audio) Links to great things we discussed:  Sara Hagerty Website Sara Hagerty  Instagram The Gift of Limitations Hereos - Ben Rector A Hidden Life Toups & Co. Organics Tallow Balm - Vanilla + Almond Bigelow Perfect Peach Belif Moisturizing Eye Bomb Alli on YouTube Called Creatives Alli’s Internship Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

The Truth About Navigating Changes in Life with Andi Andrew

Today, we are going to learn from my friend, Andi Andrew.  She will help us understand how to face change bravely, navigate it properly, and come through stronger on the other side.   Andi Andrew hosts the Coffee with Andi podcast and has written four books: She Is Free, Fake or Follower, and Friendship--It's Complicated. She is a heartfelt preacher who loves to see the reality of the gospel worked out in everyday lives. In this episode, Andi shares insights from her new book, Braving Change: Release the Past, Welcome Growth, and Trust Where God is Leading You, and teaches us that Change is a powerful teacher, shaping and molding us more into the likeness of Christ as we let it do its work. Join Andi and I as we talk about:  Why Andi wrote her new book about change Grief with change Moving through change in a healthy way How to move forward after grieving Developing a game plan for recovery after change Favorite quotes:  17:47 - “There is a reason why the mourning process in the Bible was so wild and why they would put sackcloth and ashes and wail and mourn. They knew they needed to move it out of their bodies so that they could move forward in life.” 25:05 - “Even taking those little moments that seem impractical like, I don’t have time for this right now. Just let yourself cry for a few minutes and then move on.” 23:08 - “For any of us that are navigating anything, any new strategy for your future, your life, or your job, you need a game plan to recover from loss and to recover from the shifts and changes you just walked through.” 35:53 - “Just slow yourself down, stop grasping, and ask the Lord what do I need and God what do you want to give me? I know that if you ask the Lord, He will actually tell you, show you, and remind you in Scripture. But then don’t just hear him, do it!” Coaching this week:  How to Increase Your Odds for Success in Life (37:49)  We already know to stay close to Jesus and to not self sabotage.  But, today, I want to share the secret of how to increase your chances of good things to happen for you.   Links to great things we discussed:  Andi Andrew Website Andi Andrew  Instagram Braving Change Release the Past, Welcome Growth, and Trust Where God is Leading You Mumford and Sons Chris Stapleton Coat of Many Colors - Brandon Lake Slow Horses Reacher Prose Curl Big Hair Root Pump Plus Humidity Resistant Volumizing Spray Mousse Aveda be curly Curl Enhancer DevaCurl Sylvania Wifi LED Smart Light Bulb Alli on YouTube Called Creatives Alli’s Internship Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

The Truth About Starting and Scaling Your Business with Ryan Deiss

This week, I talk to Ryan Deiss about how to start and scale your business.  Ryan is a serial entrepreneur, author, and investor. He is the Founder and CEO of The Scalable Company, DigitalMarketer.com, and a Founding Partner at Scalable Equity.  Ryan shares insights from his new book, Get Scalable: The Operating System Your Business Needs to Boost Sales, Increase Profits, and Run Without You, about building a business that thrives without your constant input. Join Ryan and I as we talk about: Different ways we self-sabotage and why Adopting a position of service Three myths of starting a small business Trends in business - What’s working and what’s not working What is the Founder’s Curse, and how does it negatively affect our business First steps for scaling your business  Favorite quotes:  6:42 - “You can start a company. It can fail. That doesn’t make you a failure. You can just do another one.” 6:59 - “Don’t worry about your logo or all this other stuff, just go sell somebody something.” 7:35 - “The beautiful thing about business is you have the opportunity to self-sabotage at multiple points along the way.” 9:34 - “Adopt the position of service, and above all else, stop defining your business based on the products you sell or how you sell them. Define your business based on the people you serve.” 12:09 - “You don’t need a bunch of money to get started. You don’t really even need a product to get started, and you don’t need a brand to get started.” 25:36 - “We don’t start with our goals. We don’t start by documenting everything. We start by visualizing the value creation process then you can do all the other stuff.”   Coaching this week:  When to Make Your First Hire  (31:49) I share my easy process to help you know when to make that first hire.  Here’s a hint: it has to do with your time and your money and how much of each you currently have. Links to great things we discussed:  Ryan Deiss Website Digital Marketer Ryan Deiss Instagram Get Scalable: The Operating System Your Business Needs to Boost Sales, Increase Profits, and Run Without You Taylor Swift 30 Rock Seinfeld BritBox Full Focus Planner The Conqueror App Silo Alli on YouTube The Coach School Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to have successful relationships, the mistakes that destroy them, and communication without regrets with Donna Jones

Welcome To the show today! I am so glad you are here. We’re still in the “Your Work Matters Series” and we’re tackling a topic that is relevant to both work and our personal relationships. Today we are with my friend, Donna Jones, and we are sharing the truth about conflict and what common behaviors destroy both your personal and work relationships, Donna Jones is a national speaker, church planter, pastor's wife, author, writer, podcast host, and self-described "Bible-explainer." She hosts the weekly That's Just What I Needed podcast,  In this episode, Donna shares insights from her new book, Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life: A Biblical Guide for Communicating Thoughts, Feelings, and Opinions with Grace, Truth, and Zero Regret, and teaches us how to handle conflict in a God-honoring way and how to communicate our thoughts, feelings, and opinions with grace, truth, and zero regret. Join Donna and I as we talk about: Identifying our expectations and communicating them Common mistakes and behavior that destroy our relationships The truth about conflict How to have hard conversations in a healthy way Why listening is crucial to diffusing conflict The key to successful relationships   Favorite quotes:  “A lot of our conflicts can be preemptive if we communicate upfront.” (11:25) “When we are dealing with somebody’s difficult emotions, if we don’t just listen people escalate or they end always. When we are dealing with difficult things the best thing to do is just listen.” (25:09)  “So many of us think that conflict is bad because we have never learned to work through conflict in a way that makes it turn out good.” (32:04)   Coaching this week:  3 Ways to Make Your Home & Life More Organized (36:34) This week, I share three easy ways to reduce stress and increase organization in your home.  From finances to keeping clutter at a minimum to finding a home for everything, these strategies will help you feel more organized and that much happier.     Links to great things we discussed:  Donna Jones Website Donna Jones  Instagram Healthy Conflict, Peaceful Life: A Biblical Guide for Communicating Thoughts, Feelings, and Opinions with Grace, Truth, and Zero Regret Prayer: Communing with God in Everything Bobbi Brown Long-Wear Cream Eyeshadow Stick Alli on YouTube The Coach School Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How Our Work and Our Obedience Can Lead Revival with Lisa Whittle

Today, we have my friend and Called Creatives co-founder Lisa Whittle back on the show. In this episode, we are talking about work, revival, and the different seasons God has us in our work life.  Lisa Whittle is a Bible teacher, speaker, author, and podcast host. She hosts several podcasts, including the popular Jesus Over Everything podcast. She is the founder of Ministry Strong and the co-founder of Called Creatives, a community for writers and speakers.  Lisa and I talk about: The changes the Lord put on Lisa’s heart for this year and revival Obeying God without having all the answers Wrestling with God and running from Him when He calls us to change Sometimes, we have to be willing to lose everything Learning to listen to the Lord  Disobedience can be doing or not doing something Lisa’s challenge to listeners Personal revival and wanting God with our whole heart   Favorite quotes:  05:55 - “When you find yourself not having a lot of time for the Lord, someone that you love more than anything, then that becomes a problem.” 12:58 - “When you do it God’s way, even though it’s hard, there will be something that you do not know that He knows better about that will work.” 20:22 - “I want you women to know when you have something in your spirit that feels right, you need to go for it.” 23:54 - “We will never want to spend time with God if it is just about a checklist.”   (28:48) Coaching this week: Optimizing Your Day   I talk about discovering my circadian rhythm, all the benefits of taking care of it, and how I realized just how powerful it can be.  You will be amazed at how productive you can be in such a short window of time.       (31:07) Recommendations I share about my health goals and what finally flipped the switch for me.  I tell you the one thing that keeps coming up in all my research and study of nutrition that will actually help you boost your immune system - fiber!   Links to great things we discussed:  Lisa Whittle Website Lisa Whittle Instagram I Want God: How to Love Him with Your Whole Heart and Revive Your Soul God Knows: When Your Worries and Whys Need More Than Temporary Relief The Jesus Over Everything Podcast Revlon ColorStay Full Cover Foundation GOBIOTIX Prebiotic Fiber Boost Alli on YouTube The Coach School Build Your Coaching Business Quick Start Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode!  Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

What Women Get Wrong About Boundaries with Sasha Shillcutt

Continuing our series, “Your Work Matters”, today we are talking about boundaries at work, balance, and avoiding common pitfalls as women with our work. I’m with my good friend and client, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt.  Sasha is a physician, gender equity researcher, speaker, author, wife, mom of four amazing kids, and Founder and CEO of Brave Enough.  Sasha’s book, Brave Boundaries teaches us strategies for saying no, standing strong, and taking control of our time.   Join Sasha and I as we talk about: (04:12) What women get wrong about boundaries (05:04) Being afraid to have boundaries, especially in the workplace (06:14) Boundary backlash (09:03) Feeling confident in responses to extra work (13:46) Importance and impact of women in the workplace (16:12) Common types of self-sabotage (17:58) Moving forward from the fear of failure   Favorite quotes: (04:29)   “Boundaries are more about keeping the good in than they are about keeping the bad out.”    (04:46)  “The more we love people in our lives, want to serve people in our lives, and the more we want to show up as fully ourselves, the more boundaries we need.”    (06:47) )“I always remind myself I want to be a person who shows up and does the good work on my job description. If it's not on your job description, you aren't required to do it. Or if it's more than your job description, it's an opportunity for you to see if you want to do it or not. Then the boundaries, really, and the power lies within you because I always say, ‘You would much rather be a woman who's respected than a woman who's liked.’”   (17:54)  “...We often self-sabotage because we are so afraid of failing at things, things being hard, not getting it right, and making mistakes that we just take ourselves out of the game.”   Coaching this week:  (37:02) In our Coaching this week, we talk about delegation.  Delegation helps us stay focused on the work that only we can do - our zone of genius.  Most people are terrible at delegating.  Listen as I share three non-obvious tips for mastering delegation.      ( 38:29)  1 - Embrace the art of ‘good enough’. (39:40)  2 - Play to people’s strengths - not just what you want to get rid of. (40:58)  3 - Communication and trust are key.   Recommendation (43:23) My recommendation for the week is a light therapy light.  It’s a tiny change that will give you a big result in your life.     Links to great things we discussed:  Sasha Shillcutt Website Sasha Shillcutt Instagram Brave Boundaries Brave Enough Women’s Conference 2024 Zach Bryan Slow Horses The Crown The Big Leap Lano Hands Light Therapy Lamp Alli on YouTube The Coach School Build Your Coaching Business Quick Start   Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Busting Myths: Sacred vs. Secular with Jordan Raynor

Today, my friend Jordan Raynor and I are talking about the sacredness of our secular work. Join us as we dive into what we think about work in light of eternity.  Jordan Raynor is an author, podcast host, and executive chairman of Threshold 360.  Through his bestselling books, the Mere Christians podcast, and his weekly devotionals, Jordan has helped millions of Christians in every country on earth connect the gospel to their work.  In this episode, Jordan shares insights from his new book, The Sacredness of Secular Work, and reminds us that our daily jobs have significance for eternity even when we are not explicitly sharing the gospel.  Join Jordan and I as we talk about: Value of our daily secular work (05:59) Rehearsing for eternity (12:15) Half-truths for heaven (10:16) Most surprising discoveries from Jordan’s research (21:37) The anti-bucket list (23:00) Tips for how to make disciples (27:12) Using conversation launchers to have more intentional conversations (27:54) Favorite quotes:  05:59 - “The value of secular work depends upon the value of creation and the value of creation depends on what God's going to do with this creation in the end.” 10:16  - “The half-truths of heaven rob our joy and purpose in the present and hope for the future.”  12:15  - “The very same thing I am doing today is simply rehearsing something that is eternal and one day will be perfectly consummated with Christ on the new Earth.” 20:21 - “We mere Christians working as entrepreneurs and baristas in the pews inevitably feel guilty about working in the very places most likely to make disciples of Jesus Christ.” 27:27 - “When you understand that 100% of your time at work matters for eternity and not just the 1% of the time you spend walking somebody through the Romans Road, you are fully alive and fully alive people attract the lost like honey attracts bees.” Coaching this week: 42:12 We are wrapping up our Clarity Questions for 2023.  These questions are a bit more fun, but just as important as the last two weeks have been.  Pause and journal your answers to get the most out of this time. 1)  What are three words to describe the past year and why? 2)  What did I learn about myself this year? 3)  Were there any risks I avoided out of fear? 4)  If you could travel back to the beginning of the year, what advice or encouragement would you tell yourself? 5)  What would your 90-year-old self advise you to pursue right now? Recommendation 46:48 A skincare tip involving Aquaphor  Exclusive Bonus Content 49:15 YouTube viewers get exclusive bonus content, including this week’s movie review of Wonka and a bonus review of Paddington 2. Links to great things we discussed:   Jordan Raynor Website Jordan Raynor Instagram The Sacredness of Secular Work: 4 Ways Your Job Matters for Eternity Redeeming Your Time: 7 Biblical Principles for Being Purposeful, Present, and Wildly Productive Mere Christians Podcast Cruel Summer - Taylor Swift Evernote The Crown The West Wing King: A Life The Intentional Father Alli on YouTube The Coach School 3 Secrets to Become a Successful Coach and How to Get Clients Fast Aquaphor Wonka  Paddington 2  Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

How to Hear From God with Havilah Cunnington

Welcome to the show. You are in the right place today!  Today we are tackling something that we all care about deeply- hearing from God with my friend Havilah Cunnington. Hearing God’s voice is one of the greatest gifts we have been given. Often though we feel frustrated as if we are doing something wrong but really the key is that we need to discover the unique way God speaks to us.  Havilah Cunnington is a Bible teacher, author, small business owner, and itinerant speaker obsessed with helping people live the abundant life God has called them to live.  Havilah’s new book, Created to Hear God: 4 Unique and Proven Ways to Confidently Discern His Voice teaches that God speaks to each of us differently and the key to understanding the unique way He speaks to us is through our prophetic personality. Join Havilah and I as we talk about:  When Havilah and Alli first met How we know if we are hearing from God or just ourselves 3 core values for hearing from God The 4 prophetic personalities and understanding your prophetic personality   Favorite quotes: “There’s a recording of what you said to me that night…[I thought] my sweet little Southern Baptist heart doesn't understand this, but there is a more charismatic part of the church that gets it and feels comfortable hearing from God.  And it was later after that you told me, ‘We hear from God in different ways’.  And you went through all of that and it changed my life forever.” - Alli Worthington (Youtube 5:27) (Audio - 4:41)   “What I've learned about God is that he really doesn't care what our title is or what we theologically know. He knows us - our personhood.  He knows our hopes, our dreams. He knows our future. He knows what happened in the past. He knows the secrets of our hearts.” - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 9:16) (Audio - 8:13)   “God did not make a mistake when he made us, and he made us how we are.” - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 9:43) (Audio - 8:40)   “There are three voices that we consistently hear. We hear ourselves, we hear God, and we hear the enemy.” - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 16:08) (Audio - 13:12)    “The prophetic is simply how God shows up in the world.  Personality is how you show up in the world. I like to put them together, calling it prophetic personality.”  - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 18:30) (Audio - 15:28)   “We want to hear God’s voice because you can’t have a relationship without His voice.” - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 19:15) (Audio - 16:10)   “We don’t learn to hear God’s voice. We have been created to hear God’s voice.”  - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 20:24)  (Audio - 17:12)    “God is always speaking.”  - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 21:24) (Audio 18:10)   “Everyone deserves to hear God’s voice.”  - Havilah Cunnington (Youtube 36:45)   Coaching this week:  5 Power Packed Clarity Questions (YouTube 38:00 ) (Audio 33:35) Links to great things we discussed:  Havilah Cunnington Website Havilah Cunnington Instagram Created to Hear God: 4 Unique and Proven Ways to Confidently Discern His Voice Havilah’s Podcast Alli on YouTube Apply for a FREE Coaching Call with Alli Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli

Is Social Media Destroying our mental health, how to make changes in life, and how to balance work and rest with Terra Mattson

Hey friend! We are back with my dear friend, Terra Mattson diving into why we do what we do, how to be even more emotionally healthy, and learning what we need to know to have a great year. In this part two episode, we talk a lot about social media. How do we as adults self-regulate and use social media well? Then we dive into how to guide our teenagers to set boundaries and use social media in a healthy way in this digital age.  Terra Mattson is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed professional counselor who has practiced for nearly two decades and oversees a team of 20 clinicians.  Terra is the co-host of The Living Wholehearted Podcast with her husband Jeff. On the podcast, they candidly share relational wisdom from the home to the workplace.  Listen in on these audio chapters to hear:  What work and rest look like and how it is different for different people Using social media well Guiding our teenagers to use social media in a healthy way with boundaries Terra’s best advice for making changes in 2024 Favorite quotes: “Research shows that the quality of our relationships is what determines our long-term peace and our long-term happiness in life so invest in them. Relationships are the key to our emotional health.” “There is this wide variety of what God calls good and very good. Discovering who we are and living within each of our designs is part of the freedom.” “I am starting to see a little bit of a shift with social media. The only way to do it well is you have got to learn and know how to regulate your own emotions and self-care.” “At the end of the day, our greatest change and our greatest impact come from face-to-face, person-to-person relationships.” “Pick one small shift and be consistent with it throughout the whole year.” Coaching this week:  5 Questions to Ask About Your Relationships (27:46)  Links to great things we discussed:  Terra Mattson Website Terra Mattson Instagram The Living Wholehearted Podcast Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace Alli on YouTube Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones All My Knotted-Up Life: A Memoir 12 Rules for Life Order your copy of Remaining You While Raising Them here. Hope you loved this episode! Be sure to subscribe in iTunes and slap some stars on a review! :) xo, Alli